I thought things were ok...

I thought things were ok...

FH has cold feet.

I don't even know what to say.

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I'm sure it just nerves.

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Kristen Im so sorry... have you guys talked about it?

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Oh no sweetie!! I pray is is just a case of the nerves. Try and talk it out with him, and maybe try and avoid 'wedding' talk for a few days.

We're all here for you

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I'm so sorry. Try to talk it out.

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could be just nerves, try to talk to him and put a hold on the planning and do un-wedding related things together, we are here for you

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Stay strong it could be stress.

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ughh i am soo sorry to hear this
i can relate. fh and i just went through this for the past month. it was the worst month ever tears, lack of sleep, worry (esp with the wedding 4 months away at the time) i had no hope because things just seemed horrible. last tuesday night i stood strong pushed all my emotions aside and basically slapped him back to reality.
i explained that i know this is right for us although we got caught up in stress of both a house and wedding. etc etc
just give him time to cool off no mentioning of wedding or if ur searching for a place to live just put it off.
he will come around!

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thanks for the support ladies! ill keep you updated

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I think this is a normal feeling people get. Try and take some time off from discussing planning with him. It might be too much pressure for him.

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Posted by AngnShaun

Kristen Im so sorry... have you guys talked about it?

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He was talking in circles. Didn't really get anywhere. His entire family has had disfunctional relationships so he thinks marriage = eventual disfunction

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That's interesting because I'm the same way and sometimes I wonder if I'm getting cold feet, but then I talk to FH, doesn't have to be about the wedding, but just talking to him makes me feel better and more confident that things will work out.

Just keep going, talk to him as a friend rather than a fiance because deep down that's what we are right? Best friends with our fiances? Don't worry, you two will be okay.

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I hope it's just nerves. All the ladies gave good advice: take a break form planning/wedding talk, and focus on YOU guys. Take some time for just you guys, and try to talk it out and see what is worrying him. Good luck. and im sorry

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Oh sweetie, take time out from wedding stuff.....

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im so sorry kristen! i hope its just nerves. we are all here for you

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I am sure everything will work out hun!! stay positive and have a nice long talk....

we are all here if you need us!

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im so sorry Kristen, i agree with the other ladies, maybe try to stop wedding talk for a week or so and just focus on your relationship. I am sure he is just getting nervous with the wedding getting closer

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Kristen, so sorry you have to go through this. I'm sure it's just nerves and he'll forget any concerns soon!