I wanna scream right now!!!!!!

Ok so here's the thing one of my BM found out after she agreeded to be in the wedding and got fitted for the dress she is prego ok fine not a big deal....
Now she is 6 months, she has some complications she basically said she has to get out of it, Ok not a big deal again. My cousin took her spot ( this all happened today) so we went today got the shoes got the undergarments went for the fitting ok still ok...

So we get the final cost of everything, 161. for the dress 60. extra fabric ( cuase she is prego) 140. for alterations 50. shoes and 50. undergarments, its like 4-500.00 now, now I am like holy crap this should have only cost 250. so now the one who dropped out wants the deposit she left on the dress NOW my coasing cant afford to give her the deposit and pay for the dress
I swear I am losing my friggin mind over here!!!

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Posted by Soon2BeMrs

i would tell her she needs to wait to get her deposit back.....you have enough to deal with! and jsut for the inconvience she SHOULDNT get it back

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yup--my sentiments exactly. tell her she has to wait a little bit for the deposit!

I TOTALLY AGREE!!!! I had a girl that dropped out and was driving me insane asking for her money back. I first told her she needed to wait until after the wedding and we'd discuss what was happening (because she wasn't replaced). I just didn't want to deal with her crap til after the wedding.

I ended up having to be a bit rude and telling her to shut-up and stop asking me. I said 'My concern is getting the girls dressed that are still standing at my side.' (But, she dropped out on me for no good reason, by email, with 8 weeks to go. So, I was a bit perturbed with her anyway.)

You just have to give it to her straight and tell her that you won't even discuss this until after the honeymoon. Plain and simple!!!

I tryed to tell her she will get the money after the weding she wants me to pay her and let my cousin owe me the money i told her i dont even have enough money for the wedding right now as it is so i cant she said ' is not my problem' i wish i could just give her the mone now and get it over with and give her some nice choice words but she is my FH cousins wife so technicly she is faimly!!! i only put her in the wedding becuase she cryed to me that she wasnt in it and i dodnt even know er that well at the time!!!
thanks for letting me vent i really needed it only its still not making me feel any better....

give her the option of losing the deposit or buying the dress... see which one she will take then! (obviously, she's not gonna cough up the full amount for a dress!). Tell her it will cost too much money to alter her dress WITH paying the deposit, so it will be cheaper if she keeps that dress and pays for it in its entirety and the new BM orders/rushes to get a new one. She'll flip if she has to pay in full, so she'll probably just say to keep the deposit!

A deposit is a deposit for a reason, and everyone knows you lose it if something happens.

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Posted by sarahradio5



A deposit is a deposit for a reason, and everyone knows you lose it if something happens.

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YUP defintaly!!!

This all happened today and she's already complaining about a 'refund!' How inconsiderate! Did you make it clear to her that you had to pay for alterations on top of everything else ?!

Just tell her that you really can't! Explain to her exactly why things are tight for you right now (even though she should be well aware) and let her know that you have no choice to give the money to her afterwards!

On the other hand, why does she so urgently need the $$? Is it because of the baby or is she just being petty? Good luck!

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Posted by Soon2BeMrs

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Posted by sarahradio5



A deposit is a deposit for a reason, and everyone knows you lose it if something happens.

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YUP defintaly!!!

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i absolutely agree

Ok so heres a little update:
I was on the phone with her MIL ( FH aunt) until 530 am. She can not belive what she is doig over 90.00. She is so upset about this that she thinks its going to bring in major problems with the family. Now the BM husband ( FH cousins) is a groomsman, FH, GM brother and Mother both told me that they will bet the 90.00 that he will back out. Then later on the Aunt said to me she dosent even thin that they will come to the wedding at all. FH is so mad and fed up with these 2 at this point there is nothing to say but ' You are not geting the deposit back at all and dont come unless you are going to be happy for us'
Its absolutley crazy and I fell like I am just done with her.
MOre updates to follow.