My FFIL is a real a-hole - he and FMIL (who is wonderful!) have been divorced for about 10 years. We invited him because we felt we had too, even though his kids hate him and don't want to have anything to do with him.
He stopped by our house unannounced yesterday to ask if he could bring a date because he 'wanted to piss off his Ex' meaning FMIL. I told him No and that I didn't think our wedding was the appropriate place for that type of behaviour.
I'm trying to figure out where I'm going to sit him, I won't put him at the parents table because i want FMIL to enjoy herself, I can't put him with his children because they hate him, I'm trying to figure out who I can place him with, but really don't want to subject anyone to his crap
BrideToBe24
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Ugh! Sorry you have to deal with that Nina.
B22
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what does FH say about it? Shouldn't he be the one handling it?
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Posted by Nina_m74
He stopped by our house unannounced yesterday to ask if he could bring a date because he 'wanted to piss off his Ex' meaning FMIL.
even if someone thought that, to say it out loud is unbelievable!!
i am so sorry you have to deal with him. what does your FH say? does he want to uninvite him?
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Posted by carolinep24
what does FH say about it? Shouldn't he be the one handling it?
i agree
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Posted by sweetdreamz1181
Posted by carolinep24
what does FH say about it? Shouldn't he be the one handling it?
i agree
I agree too, but if your FH is anything like mine, easier said than done :
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FH doesn't want him there either, but also doesn't want to have to answer questions like 'where is your father'
We were hoping he wouldn't be able to make it, he asked us for airfare to come to the wedding and we told him no (he travels with the carnival and it will be in Florida in Oct.) but now he says he'll drive up.
FH asked me not to order his father a boutineer, he didn't want his name listed on the invite.
I do wish we hadn't invited him in the first place, but we were afraid of the drama it would cause elsewhere.
FH solution to the seating arrangement was to put everyone in a hat We are going to go over it more tonight, but I just can't seem to get it out of my head right now
MJDoc12
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how about seating him in the kitchen?
sorry you are going thru this....i know its a tough situation!
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Posted by MJDoc12
how about seating him in the kitchen?
sorry you are going thru this....i know its a tough situation!
I LOVE that idea!
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sit him at the band/dj and photographer table....maybe you could even get 1/2 off his meal....
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Posted by Nina_m74
He stopped by our house unannounced yesterday to ask if he could bring a date because he 'wanted to piss off his Ex' meaning FMIL.
I am going through the same thing with FMIL. She is insisting on bring not a guy that she knows, but a blind date. Ughh
What does your FH say?
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What about sitting him with FH's uncles or aunts??
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Posted by Soon2BMrsMunzGunz
I am going through the same thing with FMIL. She is insisting on bring not a guy that she knows, but a blind date. Ughh
What does your FH say?
OMG, why do people do these things???
I think I figured out the seating He has one daughter who will talk to him and FHs SIL will talk to him (her husband is in the wedding party) There is a table for 4 so I can sit him with them and SILs son
The table size has been half the problem - the room int he castle isn't shaped like a regular RH and only has tables for 4 or 6.
Thanks for all of your help and thoughts guys!
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sit him directly in front of the dj's/bannds biggest speaker!!!!!!!
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I am glad you guys figured something out. Family issues and weddings are always hard-I had that issue with my entire family on my dad's side! Wanted to sit them out in the parkign lot lol. But it could be worse...you could have happen to you what happened to my best friend...
During her CEREMONY her father (aka drugged out of his mind most days, 50 but thinks he is a yo-yo gangster 20 yr old) gives her away but remains standing on the altar in front of me and the rest of the BP and then mid ceremony TAKES A CALL from...get this...HIS NEW G/F!!!!
I say if the FFIL acts up, have him 'escorted' to the parking lot.
