If a coworker were to divulge 'feelings' for you, would you tell fh?

Original post by JessicaM.

Feb 22, 2006 10:23 AM

Say a coworker 'confessed' that he (or she) liked you, would you tell your fh? Even after you set the person straight (zero chance...getting married...the whole 9) and had no intention of ever ever going there) would you spill the beans?

SIBride06 Posted: Feb 22, 2006 11:09 AM

Re: If a coworker were to divulge 'feelings' for you, would you tell fh?

Posted by MrsFelix

I tell my FH everything. So yes I would tell him. But then again my FH is not jealous and he gets a kick out of me telling him stuff like that.

Same here!

M&S Sept12006 Posted: Feb 22, 2006 11:09 AM

Re: If a coworker were to divulge 'feelings' for you, would you tell fh?

I dont know, I think it really depends on the situation. Not that I would keep it from FH its just that I dont think I would run home and tell him about it. Maybe if the topic came up in our conversation then I would mention it. I think it would make him uncomfortable if I ran home and told him about it, I mean I handled it and thats it, what is he going to do run to my job and confront the guy? Probably not. So its really how you see the big picture and how it would make your FH feel...I mean at the end of the day its not really affecting him right?

Jen2999 Posted: Feb 22, 2006 11:18 AM

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ehh I dont think its a big deal if you dont tell him. I mean it doesnt mean anything and might just upset him.

I dunno I think it would depend on the exact situation...

ewickens Posted: Feb 22, 2006 11:25 AM

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I tell my FH when people make comments to me at work, although not often, I do work with students around my age, so I feel more comfortable with him knowing because I'm proud when I can say that I am marrying the man I love and respect.

summer06bride Posted: Feb 22, 2006 11:26 AM

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I dont think I would tell him especially if you plan on working there for a while. I think it would make fh a little uncomfortable. I was in a similar situation and didnt mention it to fh until much later. He didnt have much of a reaction but I think if I had told him at the time he would not have been so thrilled.

danamike Posted: Feb 22, 2006 11:29 AM

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Posted by ChrissynRicky

Nope, wouldn't tell FI. Ricky would come to my job and kill him/her.

Sounds just like my Mike!!!

SweetCin704 Posted: Feb 22, 2006 11:31 AM

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Posted by MissingTheBGene

Posted by BlueTulip

I dunno-If this is someone that I had to work with, I might not tell, only because whenever I reference them for work related things it might bother him (though FH has given me no reason to feel that what, I'm just thinking how I would feel if it was the other way around).

Actually, this is a very good point. If I knew I was not going to be at the job for much longer, I would tell him, but if I planned on keeping the job and that whenever I reference this person I had to work with, it may upset FH, and I wouldn't want to do that, obviously.

Tough call...I think I side w/ the above ladies...he'd be stressing then and if I set the guy straight then I wouldn't want FH stressing everytime I went to work. I think I wouldn't tell him.

jada2destiny Posted: Feb 22, 2006 11:47 AM

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I wouldn't tell FH, especially if I set him straight already and told him that there was no chance. I would only tell FH if I felt disrespected or if I thought my job was in jeopardy because of it

Preshy7 Posted: Feb 22, 2006 11:49 AM

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Posted by johnsae

Yes - I would tell FH. No harm in him knowing that other men like me

I AGREE!!

October Bliss Posted: Feb 22, 2006 12:02 PM

Re: If a coworker were to divulge 'feelings' for you, would you tell fh?

I work with a guy who for 5 years had the BIGGEST crush on me. (and according to most observers still does) When he finally got up the nerve to ask me out I shot him down. Two weeks later he was at a bachelor party with FH and got completey trashed and apparantly went on and on about 'some girl' who shot him down that he was 'in love' with. FH & I were not dating at that point. However, it has since come up, and FH was like 'oh, so you're the girl'.

If it came up again - I would definitely tell him. What's the point of keeping it a secret????

MrsD06 Posted: Feb 22, 2006 12:08 PM

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ummm, is this a hypothetical question?

In the past when I've told FH things like this it has only upset him. I think it would depend on the situation, too.

hmpena Posted: Feb 22, 2006 12:13 PM

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I would tell... Dh isn't really the jealous type.

sr081906 Posted: Feb 22, 2006 12:29 PM

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Not to scare you but you really have to tell someone. It's call sexual harassment. I would tell my HR at work also just to be safe. Never know what his real intentions are.