after FH and I have finally agreed on a place for the wedding...(not confirmed yet because we have an appt on sat) I was discussing menus with my future MIL and future SIL....my SIL said something like 'i hate to say it but this menu sounds better than FH's brother's wedding' MIL answers yea but they were on the show 'whose wedding is it anyway so they gave him an upgrade'. SIL replies yea but they are still getting a better menu even w/o the upgrade. I think MIL felt bad because she kind of has more preference for the other son who got married 3 years ago. I kind of felt bad that she also said oh 'your wedding is not gonna be compared because it wouldn't be fair they had a show' and this made me feel really bad since it made it sound as if she was saying that no matter what we do the other wedding is already better...I really love my MIL but sometimes she just says hurtful things....I don't know if i am overreacting but this made me feel a bit down. Any advices???? how show i take a scenario like this???
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I'm soo sorry that you are dealing with this, i really hate when people feel the need to make comparisons. all i can say is just don't let it get to you, this is you and your fh's wedding and do it how you want it to be.
I had to deal with comparisons in the beginning from FFIL when i started looking at halls, everything was being compared to what FSIL had looked at and what she had paid. in the begining i felt like he was trying to help, but then it became very critical of all the places that i was looking at and i stopped running things past them because it was driving me nuts
ShannonSoon
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I'm sorry that people are making you feel like that. I think it's best to just try to remember that this wedding is about you and your FH. Who cares what anyone else likes or dislikes as long as you guys are happy with your day. I think people don't realize how there comments can be insensitive sometimes. She probably didn't intentionally mean to hurt your feelings. People can get sooo caught up in wedding talk and don't think about what they're saying and how people will feel. HTH
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Sometimes people are just mean. Just tell yourself, this is your day and no one will ruin it. Try to keep a positive outlook and forget all the negative comments. It will be a beautiful day no matter what.
Rosa29
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Maybe you could say something like...Why are you saying that and making me feel bad. You should ask her why she is always comparing the 2 weddings. If I was you I would make sure your wedding was even better than his brothers...just to shut her up because now is your time to shine...not to be compared to someone else wedding!
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Souns like to me taht ur FSIL is a total biatch !!!! IMO .... she made it seem like you had to have this crappy menu , and that your wedding couldnt outshine her other brothers ...ignore it and let them hate !!!
