If you and FH are 100% paying for the wedding yourselves

JessNicole7EM Posted: Nov 08, 2010 03:45 PM

If you and FH are 100% paying for the wedding yourselves

Are you still planning on exchanging gifts?

I was looking into this 60' flat screen for FH (which we'd both benefit from)

but my mom thinks it's ridiculous after spending over $50k on a wedding why the heck are we buying eachother gifts?

jettahot Posted: Nov 08, 2010 03:46 PM

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We arent. We are totally doing this on our own and our honeymoon is our gift!

itbroi805 Posted: Nov 08, 2010 03:47 PM

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well i already did bpics but my fh really wants this crazy expensive watch and he gave me money towards it but i think its soo stupid to waste the money on it but i know he really really wants it....so im going to try but if it comes down to paying off the RH or his watch, the RH wins.

Cataverri Posted: Nov 08, 2010 03:48 PM

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We are paying for everything ourselves...I'm probably gonna buy him a nice watch. I can careless for a present.

mybabylovesmoi Posted: Nov 08, 2010 03:48 PM

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We're not even paying for the wedding entirely ourselves (my parents are contributing) but we still said no wedding gifts to eachother.

Our honeymoon will be something we can enjoy together and at this point, I feel like having one less thing to pick out/pay for near crunch time is a gift on its own.

What will end up happening is we'll probably shop together on our honeymoon and we can buy something then...with our wedding gift money

JessNicole7EM Posted: Nov 08, 2010 03:49 PM

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Posted by itbroi805

well i already did bpics but my fh really wants this crazy expensive watch and he gave me money towards it but i think its soo stupid to waste the money on it but i know he really really wants it....so im going to try but if it comes down to paying off the RH or his watch, the RH wins.

I'm planning on doing Bpics for our 1st anniversary.

Is FH buying you a wedding gift?

Pacie Posted: Nov 08, 2010 03:49 PM

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we are but we're doing small gifts.

JessNicole7EM Posted: Nov 08, 2010 03:51 PM

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Posted by mybabylovesmoi

We're not even paying for the wedding entirely ourselves (my parents are contributing) but we still said no wedding gifts to eachother.

Our honeymoon will be something we can enjoy together and at this point, I feel like having one less thing to pick out/pay for near crunch time is a gift on its own.

What will end up happening is we'll probably shop together on our honeymoon and we can buy something then...with our wedding gift money

yeah that's a good point.

My mom pointed out we're going to 5 different countries on the honeymoon (which we're also paying for ourselves). And we'll prob buy something nice in each one. So instead of spending thousands on a TV and other gifts.. to put it towards the honeymoon. I agree with that but I also feel like it's traditional for the bride to get some piece of jewelry and he groom to get a gift like a watch or cufflinks or somehting.

itbroi805 Posted: Nov 08, 2010 03:51 PM

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Posted by JessNicole7EM

Posted by itbroi805

well i already did bpics but my fh really wants this crazy expensive watch and he gave me money towards it but i think its soo stupid to waste the money on it but i know he really really wants it....so im going to try but if it comes down to paying off the RH or his watch, the RH wins.

I'm planning on doing Bpics for our 1st anniversary.

Is FH buying you a wedding gift?

his sister said the hes going to buy me a tennis bracelet but I already told him he can only get me a gift if we have enough money for all the little wedding extras

suzie411 Posted: Nov 08, 2010 03:52 PM

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since you guys are paying for it 100%, i don't think it's your mom's place to say. you guys know what you can budget in. if you can afford it, i think it's nice.

mybabylovesmoi Posted: Nov 08, 2010 03:56 PM

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Posted by JessNicole7EM

Posted by mybabylovesmoi

We're not even paying for the wedding entirely ourselves (my parents are contributing) but we still said no wedding gifts to eachother.

Our honeymoon will be something we can enjoy together and at this point, I feel like having one less thing to pick out/pay for near crunch time is a gift on its own.

What will end up happening is we'll probably shop together on our honeymoon and we can buy something then...with our wedding gift money

yeah that's a good point.

My mom pointed out we're going to 5 different countries on the honeymoon (which we're also paying for ourselves). And we'll prob buy something nice in each one. So instead of spending thousands on a TV and other gifts.. to put it towards the honeymoon. I agree with that but I also feel like it's traditional for the bride to get some piece of jewelry and he groom to get a gift like a watch or cufflinks or somehting.

Oh, I definitely see the sentimentality of it and of course presents are always nice! If FH were to drop money on some jewelry for me, I would not turn it away but it's at the bottom of our list of priorities at this point.

If budget allows, it's a nice touch!

I forgot to mention before that I am doing B pics but probably giving it to him for valentines day

JessNicole7EM Posted: Nov 08, 2010 03:59 PM

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Posted by suzie411

since you guys are paying for it 100%, i don't think it's your mom's place to say. you guys know what you can budget in. if you can afford it, i think it's nice.

I didn't mean it like that.. she was just giving me her opinion, like I asked you girls too.

It's not a matter of the money - it was a matter of spending so much on a wedding that the wedding should be gift enough to us and we don't need little trinkets or gifts.

Which is why I wanted to see if other people paying for everything are still exchanging gifts or considering the wedding itself the gift.

spdy540 Posted: Nov 08, 2010 04:02 PM

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We are. FH says he knows what he is getting me but I dont know what to get for him yet. FH said it is something I wanted before we started planning and gave up when we did. Im curious

adelz Posted: Nov 08, 2010 04:02 PM

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We're paying for it fully - and as someone else said, are considering the honeymoon as our gift to each other.

BlushandBashful Posted: Nov 08, 2010 04:07 PM

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Eh, we probably aren't. I'd rather our gift to one another be a fancy dinner on our honeymoon...or maybe a couples massage.

Yankeeelove Posted: Nov 08, 2010 04:07 PM

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We're paying for everything ourselves. We'll prob just do small gifts.

HopelessRomantic Posted: Nov 08, 2010 04:08 PM

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Posted by jettahot

We arent. We are totally doing this on our own and our honeymoon is our gift!

ITA !!!

christine12 Posted: Nov 08, 2010 04:12 PM

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Posted by jettahot

We arent. We are totally doing this on our own and our honeymoon is our gift!

Same here!

rmiller2255 Posted: Nov 08, 2010 04:21 PM

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We're not doing it, when I brought it up to FH that people do it, he's like are you crazy? Isn't the ring, wedding and honeymoon enough? He's like I was planning on writing you a note but I don't need you to buy me anything!