If you have your Doctorate - PhD - etc....

Do you write on the invitation Dr.'s.........
both FH and I have our doctorates for our profession and just wondering where (or even IF) we should mention this in any of our wedding plans .....such as band introductions, invitations, etc?

My parents just mentioned this but I don't know if we should.

thanks!

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Posted by FTRBRIDE

Unless you're an MD then I would say it's in poor taste.

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There are PhDs who will get offended if you omit the Dr. My DH is a PhD and does not care if we are referred to as 'Mr. and Mrs.' but he has colleagues who insist on the 'Dr.' You are better off erring on the side of referring to others with PhDs as 'Dr.' and for yourselves, that' up to you.

Our invites had only our first names and at the reception we were introduced just as 'Bob and Tracy' since I also decided to hyphenate my name and that would have been a mouthful.

We didn't use Dr. or PhD in our invites or on our programs or anything.

For addressing invites to our friends with PhDs, we always put Dr.

I don't agree that it's in poor taste to put Dr. if you are a PhD and not an MD...

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Posted by TwoBugs

I don't agree that it's in poor taste to put Dr. if you are a PhD and not an MD...

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Me too. I wouldn't use it in band intro (we actually wanted to avoid the issue entirely and said meet B and G X). But once I finish my doctorate I know I would want it on there!

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Posted by TwoBugs

I don't agree that it's in poor taste to put Dr. if you are a PhD and not an MD...

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I agree. What is your Ph.D in? That's a tough decision. But I kinda think it should be on your invite. I think, in some situations, I'd leave it out of the intros though. I'm really no help. Sorry.

I think it's really a personal choice regarding how you want to be addressed. It also depends on how your invites are worded. For example, if it starts with your parents names (Mr. and Mrs. X and Mr. and Mrs. X request the honor of your presence at the wedding of their children.....) I wouldn't do it, b/c that usually just involves your first and middle names. If the invitation is coming from you and FH, then I think you could do it. I wouldn't use it for your band intros though...

I really think it depends on how you want to be addressed.

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Posted by am470

Dr. refers to your title. Mr. or Mrs. is inappropriate since you have your PhD. So it would be in poor taste because it is incorrect etiquette wise to omit it!

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Oh, I think I misread that other post. This makes sense, although since it's your degree, you can do whatever makes you comfortable.

My parents insisted that DH and I put some notation of our degrees on our invites, and really wanted the DJ to announce us as 'Dr. and Dr.', but we thought it was a little 'showy' for us.

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Posted by TracyInQueens

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Posted by FTRBRIDE

Unless you're an MD then I would say it's in poor taste.

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There are PhDs who will get offended if you omit the Dr. My DH is a PhD and does not care if we are referred to as 'Mr. and Mrs.' but he has colleagues who insist on the 'Dr.' You are better off erring on the side of referring to others with PhDs as 'Dr.' and for yourselves, that' up to you.

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Yes, I totally agree with this statement, but I didn't read her question to mean how to address invitations to OTHER people, but rather how they should refer to themselves.

Many people address themselves with their degrees after their name, and in my opinion (as well as proper etiquette), it is in poor taste. I will be an attorney very soon, and I absolutely cannot stand it when people sign their own letters Mr. John Smith, Esq.- When you refer to yourself you are supposed to refer to yourself by your name, Mr. John Smith. Adding the 'Esq.' does nothing but toot your own horn. Out of respect, you are supposed to refer to others in their respective capacities, but not yourself.

People can agree with me or disagree with me on this one all they like, and I know that they will since I see it done by many...I just do not and will not ever find it appropriate.

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Posted by NPbride



I agree. What is your Ph.D in?

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Again what is your Ph.D in?

off subject but this discussion totally reminds me of Ross on friends

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Posted by FTRBRIDE

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Posted by TracyInQueens

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Posted by FTRBRIDE

Unless you're an MD then I would say it's in poor taste.

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There are PhDs who will get offended if you omit the Dr. My DH is a PhD and does not care if we are referred to as 'Mr. and Mrs.' but he has colleagues who insist on the 'Dr.' You are better off erring on the side of referring to others with PhDs as 'Dr.' and for yourselves, that' up to you.

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Yes, I totally agree with this statement, but I didn't read her question to mean how to address invitations to OTHER people, but rather how they should refer to themselves.

Many people address themselves with their degrees after their name, and in my opinion (as well as proper etiquette), it is in poor taste. I will be an attorney very soon, and I absolutely cannot stand it when people sign their own letters Mr. John Smith, Esq.- When you refer to yourself you are supposed to refer to yourself by your name, Mr. John Smith. Adding the 'Esq.' does nothing but toot your own horn. Out of respect, you are supposed to refer to others in their respective capacities, but not yourself.

People can agree with me or disagree with me on this one all they like, and I know that they will since I see it done by many...I just do not and will not ever find it appropriate.

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It is unusual for lawyers to use their degrees. However, with PhDs it is standard.

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Posted by am470

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Posted by FTRBRIDE

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Posted by TracyInQueens

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Posted by FTRBRIDE

Unless you're an MD then I would say it's in poor taste.

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There are PhDs who will get offended if you omit the Dr. My DH is a PhD and does not care if we are referred to as 'Mr. and Mrs.' but he has colleagues who insist on the 'Dr.' You are better off erring on the side of referring to others with PhDs as 'Dr.' and for yourselves, that' up to you.

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Yes, I totally agree with this statement, but I didn't read her question to mean how to address invitations to OTHER people, but rather how they should refer to themselves.

Many people address themselves with their degrees after their name, and in my opinion (as well as proper etiquette), it is in poor taste. I will be an attorney very soon, and I absolutely cannot stand it when people sign their own letters Mr. John Smith, Esq.- When you refer to yourself you are supposed to refer to yourself by your name, Mr. John Smith. Adding the 'Esq.' does nothing but toot your own horn. Out of respect, you are supposed to refer to others in their respective capacities, but not yourself.

People can agree with me or disagree with me on this one all they like, and I know that they will since I see it done by many...I just do not and will not ever find it appropriate.

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It is unusual for lawyers to use their degrees. However, with PhDs it is standard.

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Perhaps in work related situations, but on a wedding invitation, or to be introduced into your wedding? I still say no way...

Our invites just had our first and last names, but at the wedding we'll be introduced as 'Dr. and Mr.' I just got a Phd and FH really wants us to introduced that way. I never planned on using 'Mrs.' and never intended on the 'Mr. and Mrs.' intro - so I was psyched to hear his suggestion.

If you are addressing an invite to a person with a Phd I dont really think it matters if you use 'Dr.' or not.