If you were BM for a friend, but you are not having them in your BP...

If you were BM for a friend, but you are not having them in your BP...

Do you need to say anything in particular to friends who had you in their bridal party, but you are not having them in yours???

Re: If you were BM for a friend, but you are not having them in your BP...

I just said we are trying to keep it small and the ones I have been in were larger parties.

Re: If you were BM for a friend, but you are not having them in your BP...

Yes. You need to make sure that they know they are important to you, and that you hope she understands your constraints. Don't leave her worrying that she did something wrong or that you don't care about her as much as she cares about you. As long as you are open and direct I am sure she will understand.

Re: If you were BM for a friend, but you are not having them in your BP...

You are right...I never thought of it that way.

I am still waiting though...
My FH has not asked anyone yet (he knows, but is hesitating for some reason).

SO, I have asked my 4 definites...and just waiting to see if he decides to go larger cuz' then maybe I'll have one or two more if he does...

Thanks ladies!

Re: If you were BM for a friend, but you are not having them in your BP...

you should. i did not say anything to a friend of mine and she was under the impression that we had not yet decided on a bridal party. when she heard through other friends that i was only having a moh, she was a bit hurt that i didn't tell her. just let her know that you are trying to keep things small (or that you have too many family members to include in your bp or whatever your reason may be) and that you still very much want her at the wedding to share in your joy.