If your FH/DH had called off your engagement...

So, in the year that I've been on the boards we've obviously 'lost' a couple brides...

FH was engaged before me ... 7 years ago and she called it off and he had to un-do all the wedding plans and go through all that drama.

Well, a girl I went to HS with whose fiance had called things off with... just announced that their engagement is back on.

After she sold all her wedding stuff, had to retract invitations, return shower gifts, etc. etc.

I just turned to FH and said 'I'd kill you. And there's no WAY you'd ever get back on my good graces.'

I'm making this a poll because I feel like this is a sensitive topic and I mean... I hope I'm not offending anyone by even asking this.

But ... if your FH/DH had called things off and then came crawling back ... would you get back together with him?

No way, man...why the heck did you propose if you weren't ready?? Get the heck outta my life.

I could never trust him again.

im crashing...but this is a very interesting question!

I think it's unfair to judge this situation.

It really depends on the situation and what happened and why it happened.

In literal terms it sounds so harsh, like the guy is a dog and dumped you...but in certain situations this may not be the case.

It realllllly depends on the WHY for me.

if he cheated or did harm then definitely NOT

but if there were personal issues, financial issues, family issues etc...then maybe depending on how things changed or panned out

remember for 2 people to enter into an engagement, it's a pretty serious thing and both people must have loved each other dearly and wanted a marriage/life with the other...so if there was an issue that worked out, then why not pick up where left off?

just my 2 cents!

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Posted by LoveyDovey

im crashing...but this is a very interesting question!

I think it's unfair to judge this situation.

It really depends on the situation and what happened and why it happened.

In literal terms it sounds so harsh, like the guy is a dog and dumped you...but in certain situations this may not be the case.

It realllllly depends on the WHY for me.

if he cheated or did harm then definitely NOT

but if there were personal issues, financial issues, family issues etc...then maybe depending on how things changed or panned out

remember for 2 people to enter into an engagement, it's a pretty serious thing and both people must have loved each other dearly and wanted a marriage/life with the other...so if there was an issue that worked out, then why not pick up where left off?

just my 2 cents!

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Great answer! ITA!

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Posted by SummerBride10

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Posted by LoveyDovey

im crashing...but this is a very interesting question!

I think it's unfair to judge this situation.

It really depends on the situation and what happened and why it happened.

In literal terms it sounds so harsh, like the guy is a dog and dumped you...but in certain situations this may not be the case.

It realllllly depends on the WHY for me.

if he cheated or did harm then definitely NOT

but if there were personal issues, financial issues, family issues etc...then maybe depending on how things changed or panned out

remember for 2 people to enter into an engagement, it's a pretty serious thing and both people must have loved each other dearly and wanted a marriage/life with the other...so if there was an issue that worked out, then why not pick up where left off?

just my 2 cents!

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Great answer! ITA!

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ITA as well!!

I agree with the above poster, the WHY he broke off the engagement what matters.
I cant judge esp that life isnt just black and white but mostly gray so to say 'I would never' is very hard esp thinking about how much I love my husband

so I guess it all depends on the circumstances

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Posted by LoveyDovey

im crashing...but this is a very interesting question!

I think it's unfair to judge this situation.

It really depends on the situation and what happened and why it happened.

In literal terms it sounds so harsh, like the guy is a dog and dumped you...but in certain situations this may not be the case.

It realllllly depends on the WHY for me.

if he cheated or did harm then definitely NOT

but if there were personal issues, financial issues, family issues etc...then maybe depending on how things changed or panned out

remember for 2 people to enter into an engagement, it's a pretty serious thing and both people must have loved each other dearly and wanted a marriage/life with the other...so if there was an issue that worked out, then why not pick up where left off?

just my 2 cents!

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ITA...I feel like things in life are not black and white and you never know how you'll react to a situation until you're in it. Its really hard for me to say yes or no

really interesting question!

i said maybe ... i think it really depends on the situation ... right now, i don't think i would ever get back with DH if he un-proposed ... but i can't really say because i'm not in that position right now.

i'd just like to add that if i DID get re-engaged to DH, i'd be soooo embarrassed and would prob just elope lol

as somebody it happened to,

NO EFFINGGGGG WAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY

ps

i love you beck

I can only speak for me and I have to say---Oh hell no! It will never be again!! **if it was for a BS reason**
The embarrassment is too much for me to take..

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Posted by jhines4684

i would seriously become a lesbian, because all my hope in guys would be destroyed.

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LMAO!!

aww kayla i love you too.

i know i prefaced this but... i really hope this poll didn't put off weird vibes.

i just couldn't believe it when i saw this on fb yesterday. this guy was SO awful to her... and i mean it goes both ways for me. i feel this way about girls calling it off with guys too.

it breaks my heart everytime i think about this girl doing that to FH. i know it still hurts to think about for him. even though it was a long time ago and there's no 'feelings'... the memory still hurts of what he had to deal with because of it.

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Posted by regy_k

I agree with the above poster, the WHY he broke off the engagement what matters.
I cant judge esp that life isnt just black and white but mostly gray so to say 'I would never' is very hard esp thinking about how much I love my husband

so I guess it all depends on the circumstances

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I voted no way, but ITA with this.

I cant really say because it didn't happened to me and there is no way Dino would have done that, so I just cant imagine going through that. I doubt I would get back with him if he broke up with me, but if he called off the engagement because of money or we couldnt afford it and needed to push it back i guess....but what we would have done than is just have a small wedding or elope.

lots of good discussion here... though i think most of you know i wasn't meaning an engagement called off because of money.


i meant <-- sort of behavior.

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Posted by flibbertigibbet

lots of good discussion here... though i think most of you know i wasn't meaning an engagement called off because of money.


i meant <-- sort of behavior.

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as I understood it was broken off engagement, u didnt specify a reason
but even not money if G said that he thinks he needs more time/unsure/feels pressured I still can't say for sure that I wouldnt get back together w/him

ETA: just depends how well he would have explained why he broke it off and why and how bad he wants me back. all depends on his realization of how wrong that was