If your fiance/husband does not have any sisters....

Original post by Mrs Z To Be

Mar 10, 2009 11:24 AM

How does your FMIL treat you??
Just curious!

SummerBride10 Posted: Mar 10, 2009 02:14 PM

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FH does not have any sisters and FMIL treats me wonderfully. She's really sweet to me.

Future Mrs Roo Posted: Mar 10, 2009 03:17 PM

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FH only has a brother 5 1/2 years younger. FMIL and i get along great. I have included her in all the wedding planning b/c she doesnt have any daughters.

futureMrsJSL Posted: Mar 10, 2009 03:31 PM

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There are three sons, no girls. MY FMIL treats me well. I'm happy that I have her in addition to my own mother and we automatically got along. Sometimes though, I feel like she thinks she's losing a son.

TheLadyJ Posted: Mar 10, 2009 04:03 PM

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Posted by Mrs Z To Be

Posted by mandab

What does she say?

Well, where should I begin? She and I were looking online at wedding gowns, I pointed one out that I liked, and she point blank told me 'oh no, you are too hippy for that'. Um, first off, no I'm not, and secondly, she's about 20 lbs overweight with large hips! Furthermore, even if it were true, does she really need to say that?

Another example: 'Oh, so I am assuming you will wear 7 inch heels'? (For upcoming engagament party).

When have I ever worn heels that high? C'mon!

'why are you having a DJ at the engagement party'? My parents are paying for it, they will do what they want. I can go on for days!

Maybe she is just one of those honest people?

My FMIL, whom I love, often just says the first things that pops into her head without thinking about how it might sound. She does it to everyone, so I really don't get offended, even though while trying on wedding dresses she let out a big 'blech' at something I was wearing.

But Fh has 2 sisters, and they are the ones who treat me like crap. FMIl loves me becuse i make her son happy. FSILs think we are in some sort of competition for affection and do everything they can to try and portray me in a negative light.

mandab Posted: Mar 10, 2009 04:06 PM

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Posted by JenBill61210

My FMIL loves me! so i guess i'm lucky. lol

ETA: just ignore her negativity, and continue planning around those that are happy to be involved and are positive.

Yes, I have to agree with this...just try to not plan around her maybe...she may just be having a bit of a problem letting go of her son. Maybe she's being a little territorial, subconsciously trying to make you feel bad.

rachel1124 Posted: Mar 10, 2009 04:16 PM

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Fh is the olderst of 3 boys--no girls. He is the first to get married and his mom always said she wanted a daughter--but doesn't treat me like one. My FH is Indian, I'm not, and well though she is not mean to me, it's not what she always pictured I guess. Just try and not have it bother you. I know it's hard. I wish my FMIL and I were closer.

FloridaGal Posted: Mar 10, 2009 05:18 PM

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My FH is the oldes of 3 boys and my FMIL is the biggest B**ch is the world! She hates me and treats me like garbage. You would think she would be nice, but it is like all those years of being around boys tuned into the worst woman on earth. Oh and she pretends like this is her wedding, she is even wearing a cream/champange dress!