If you're inviting co-workers/bosses...

Opera_Ghost Posted: Jul 24, 2008 02:59 PM

If you're inviting co-workers/bosses...

are you also supposed to invite them to bring their husband/wife/boyfriend/girlfriend etc??

I went to one wedding where my friend invited people from work without thier significant others... and anothere where they were invited too.

I could afford to invite my co-workers, but I don't think I can afford them with a guest.

I'm not sure what is the right way to do this sort of thing ans I'm just curious since I'm coming up with a guest list.

GinaZ Posted: Jul 24, 2008 03:00 PM

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if u invite a bunch of people from work, you dont have to invite them with a guest- you can have a table thats all work people and I think thats okay. But it might get tricky if they are married....

Maria31 Posted: Jul 24, 2008 03:03 PM

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All of my coworkers are married and I'm inviting their spouses. This is JMO, but I think it's only right to invite their husbands/wives. If I was invited to a wedding alone, I'd have to admit that I would probably decline.

KiTTeN0819 Posted: Jul 24, 2008 03:05 PM

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I am having this same dilema.. most of my co-workers are married. But i have like 20.. so i cant afford to invite them all with a guest. So i was thinking of not inviting any. Or secretly inviting my favorites lol.

Celeste617 Posted: Jul 24, 2008 03:05 PM

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Hey Jenn! T & I have this discussion all the time... I say only invite those from work that you REALLY want there. And only have them bring a guest if they are married or have a significant other. HTH!

hb123 Posted: Jul 24, 2008 03:06 PM

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If they are married/engaged than I think you have to invite their spouses. I know I'd be kind of peeved if FH got invited to a co-workers wedding without me.

pa56 Posted: Jul 24, 2008 03:11 PM

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Since my wedding and reception are social events, I am inviting only those co-workers with whom I socialize outside of work. And also my boss. I was told that not inviting your direct boss (and his/her spouse) would be career suicide. So in my case, that's a total of 5 people from work plus their guests - which is 10 in total (one table)!

Opera_Ghost Posted: Jul 24, 2008 03:15 PM

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Posted by Celeste617

Hey Jenn! T & I have this discussion all the time... I say only invite those from work that you REALLY want there. And only have them bring a guest if they are married or have a significant other. HTH!

You're probably right. I'm going to figure by the time the invites go out anyone who isn't married or engaged won't be invited to bring a guest along.

Everyone is always so split on this topic!

Goldie39 Posted: Jul 24, 2008 03:24 PM

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i definitely understand where you're coming from, but i do agree with some of the other brides that i would be pissed if FH were invited to a wedding w/o me. He on the other hand would care less if he wasn't invited to one of my coworkers weddings! lol, maybe its a female thing! I would also suggest to invite only your favorites but anyway u look at it, it's a hard choice. i still haven't decided what i'll be doing in this situation.

Bride908 Posted: Jul 24, 2008 03:25 PM

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If they are married or seriously dating then I would invite with a guest. I dont see how you couldnt

Opera_Ghost Posted: Jul 24, 2008 03:27 PM

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Posted by Goldie39

i definitely understand where you're coming from, but i do agree with some of the other brides that i would be pissed if FH were invited to a wedding w/o me. He on the other hand would care less if he wasn't invited to one of my coworkers weddings! lol, maybe its a female thing! I would also suggest to invite only your favorites but anyway u look at it, it's a hard choice. i still haven't decided what i'll be doing in this situation.

I might just invite a select few with a handful of people and tell them to keep their invite on thr down low. I'm wasn't planing on inviting the whole office, I'm going tojust pick theones I get along with & socialize with the most, and if they have a fiance or husband/wife they can come too. I'm going to put one table aside (maybe 2 tops) for co-workers.

JJC Posted: Jul 24, 2008 03:46 PM

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If they are married you have to invite their spouses..if not..then you can do without guests...

lillprincess54 Posted: Jul 24, 2008 03:54 PM

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all my co workers are married so we invited them with there spouses, and for dh he invited a few co workers the ones that where married or engaged they where invited with a guest if not them the invite wenmt out to just them with NO guest

Jenn04 Posted: Jul 24, 2008 03:54 PM

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I only invited my boss. I didnt want to hurt feelings and invite this one and not that one, etc.

MyFairLaLa Posted: Jul 24, 2008 04:55 PM

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If you are inviting your boss, then you should invite their significant other as well.

However, I think many people flub this one up because they pick and choose who they invite from their office. I feel like as far as office invites are concerned (in general), you should invite all or none--NOT 'I like this person, so I'll invite them...but I don't like this person, so tough.' It's easy to say that, but in the end it makes life a little more difficult because it has a tendency to effect the workplace when it's done like that.

jeanettelovesjason Posted: Jul 24, 2008 05:12 PM

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I was having the same problem. I wanted to invite my coworkers but I know there are to many to add to my guestlist so Im not going to invite any, if i was I would definitely invite them with a guest. I just think anyone over the age of 21 should be invited with a guest whether or not you know they have a significant other. I dont think you can invite people without guests, i know I would decline if it was me but thats just my opinion though

lanamanitta Posted: Jul 24, 2008 05:15 PM

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Posted by Maria31

All of my coworkers are married and I'm inviting their spouses. This is JMO, but I think it's only right to invite their husbands/wives. If I was invited to a wedding alone, I'd have to admit that I would probably decline.

Yeah, in my experience you don't invite married people alone, unless it's a less formal, daytime affair, perhaps, that is truly small.

yswedding Posted: Jul 24, 2008 05:31 PM

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I only invited like 5 of my coworkers who I see on daily basis, probably see more than anyone else in my life.

I am allowing them to bring their guests. My 2 boses are both bringing their 5 year olds.

Thats okay with me, daytime casual wedding and I know they will gift well since they are my bosses.

DCW 2008 Posted: Jul 24, 2008 06:33 PM

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I invited them with their significant others. I just invited less people.

hogie2be Posted: Jul 24, 2008 07:28 PM

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Posted by Maria31

All of my coworkers are married and I'm inviting their spouses. This is JMO, but I think it's only right to invite their husbands/wives. If I was invited to a wedding alone, I'd have to admit that I would probably decline.

I agree- unless it is a group that has the tendancy to hang outside of work without sig others...