I'm a little upset am I wrong to feel this way?

ok this is the story I just found out about 2 wks' ago my sister's boyfriend bought her an e- ring and is going to pop the question tomorrow. I really happy for her and all but now I feel like the thunder is being pulled away from me. It's been really hard for me since fh and I have been engaged since march he was laid off for 6 months just got a new job in oct and it's been really hard trying to pay bill's rent and so on and even trying to save for down payments to look at vendor's so far all we have gotten is the hall the church my dress the florist and hopefully the bm;s dresses soon. my parents have been really great with being so helpfull with things and my mom hates so see my so stressed about things and now to find out my sister is going to be engaged it's even going to be worse.
her boyfriend is the type of person who want's to get things done really fast the other day fh asked him when does he plan on setting a date what would he be looking at he said probally late spring or summer of 05 we are november!! I just feel like now it's going to be a compotition to ge things done I'm not worried about my sister being the problem it's him!! and on top of it my sister just got out of a 6 yr realationship and started dating this guy almost a yr ago and she JUST recently decided she is going to stay with him for a while she wasnt sure if she wanted to go back with her ex. so this gut is really fast to do things and when they were only dating a few month's like 3 he was talking about getting engaged soon and she had told him she didnt want to do that anytime soon . and now he's doing this.
I dont know I just feel like I've waited all my life for this and it's been soo hard these past few month's to enjoy the engagement due to stress and $ issues that I'm just getting to enjoy it look for dresses for the girls and stuff and now this is going to happen. my fh totally agrees with me.
sorry I just needed to vent.

Ok, let me tell you about my story, and hopefully you will feel better.

First, I will tell you that my sister is two years older than me.

Well, I was engaged on December 15, 2002 and I was so excited. We set our date for July 3, 2005 right away. We were living in MA and wanted to be here to plan, so we set it for a year after we'd move home to NY. Well, last Christmas, my older sister got engaged, and I was SO happy for her until the question of WHEN her wedding would be. I became the most self-centered brat and was so mean to her when she chose April 24, 2005 as her wedding date. I felt like she PURPOSELY planned her wedding 2 months and 9 days before mine just to make me feel bad.....
Well, what an a$$ I felt like when I finally stepped aside and saw that my wedding and her wedding had nothing to do with eachother. She was getting married on that date because that was the only feasible option for her. She is a teacher and needed to either do it in the summer OR around her school vacations. And since I was already getting married in July, she very well couldn't do it in the summer, so it was either April or not until the summer of 2006. And being older than me, I could totally understand her not wanting to put her life on hold for another year and a half.
This has turned out to be the BEST thing that has ever happened to us. She is more my bestfriend now than ever before. Once I got my ego out of the way, we were able to talk about planning, plan together and deal with my mother together. Neither of us gets sick of hearing about eachother's plans because we're both going through it together, at the same time.
Please know that your wedding is one day in your life, and while I can definitely understand where you would be a little upset, you have to get over it. Think about how great it will be to have a sister with an anniversary that is close to yours. You'll be going through so much and can lean on each other. I only hope you have the same revelation I did because I would not want my sister getting married any other time. It's so much excitement and I really feel like we are better sisters because of it.

My younger sister is getting married in July and I am getting married in September. I wanted a June wedding but I realized it would be A LOT easier on my family if we didn't do it one right after the other so I chose September. To me it was more important to have a warm weather month than anything else.

The 'thunder stealing' is a non-issue because my entire family is more interested in how my poor dad is going to take a huge hit to his wallet! So I guess the thunder was stolen from us both!! hahahha.

for both of you... I know its hard to be in this sort of situation.

Remember, your day is YOUR day and ... each will be special in its own way.

you shouldn't feel wrong for feeling this way at all! it's totally understandable

however, i agree that your day really has nothing to do with hers and that each day truly is special in its own way. there's no need for competition, pettiness or jealousy--it's not about that! it's about two people who love each other committing to each other for the rest of their lives. i'm a strong believer of everything happening for a reason and in the right time....

good luck

First of all - we are date twins! Actually triplets - brooklynbridezilla is 11/5/05 also!
Anyway - I totally understand what you mean. It is very tough to have 2 sisters get married so close together. But you never know, your sister might not want to get married next summer. She might want to wait longer. That would be a very short enagaement in my opinion. I wouldn't worry too much just yet. Let the engagement actually happen first. Then take it from there.

HI-I am in exactly the same situation. My younger sister, who was previously engaged, will be getting engaged soon and I am trying to prepare myself for how I will feel. She is my MOH and I know i will be hers.

You do have to keep in mind that you are two seperate people and couples. As ia m remindign myself again :)I know my sister and I have different tastes so our weddigns will be different. Good luck!

Honestly I don't think you should worry about it. Just enjoy and plan your day.
My brother got engaged a YEAR after me, and is getting married 3 month before. It really doesn't upset me. He should have his wedding when he wants to, he'll enjoy his, and than, three month later, I'll enjoy my. As time gets closer, it still seems like VERy independent weddings. Also, though it may not seem like it now, thunder goes away by itself, this way, it'll now go towards your sis.