I'm a motherless bride...

are they any other girls on here whom have lost their mothers??

As this is an extremely sensitive subject, please only respond if you lost your mom.

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Posted by nraboni

I lost my mom but I would never say I was a motherless bride. She was there...just not in the physical sense.

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right, of course. I will ALWAYS have a mother...it's from the book by Hope Edelman...'Motherless Daughters'

did you have a hard time planning your wedding without her?

Some days are just harder than others. How did you honor her on your wedding?

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Posted by J79

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Posted by nraboni

I lost my mom but I would never say I was a motherless bride. She was there...just not in the physical sense.

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right, of course. I will ALWAYS have a mother...it's from the book by Hope Edelman...'Motherless Daughters'

did you have a hard time planning your wedding without her?

Some days are just harder than others. How did you honor her on your wedding?

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It was extremely hard and there were times that I didn't think I could go through with it. My DH even said...let's put it off until you are ready but I didn't. I honored her in our ceremony and my BOK.

“It is xxx and xxxx wish that as we get started today you all join with them in a moment to remember xxxx Father xxxand xxx Mother xxxx.

I thought of you with love today but that is nothing new
I thought about you yesterday and days before that too,
I think of you in silence I often speak your name
All I have are memories and your picture in a frame
Your memory is my keepsake with which I’ll never part
God has you in His keeping I have you in my heart.

May they know that they are loved, and remembered always.”


For my BO-k,I had a charm made with her picture and had the florist attach it to mine and my sisters. I had the charm made from an esty vendor.

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Posted by J79

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Posted by nraboni

I lost my mom but I would never say I was a motherless bride. She was there...just not in the physical sense.

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right, of course. I will ALWAYS have a mother...it's from the book by Hope Edelman...'Motherless Daughters'

did you have a hard time planning your wedding without her?

Some days are just harder than others. How did you honor her on your wedding?

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I have never heard of that book. Is it worth reading?

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Posted by nraboni

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Posted by J79

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Posted by nraboni

I lost my mom but I would never say I was a motherless bride. She was there...just not in the physical sense.

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right, of course. I will ALWAYS have a mother...it's from the book by Hope Edelman...'Motherless Daughters'

did you have a hard time planning your wedding without her?

Some days are just harder than others. How did you honor her on your wedding?

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I have never heard of that book. Is it worth reading?

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well, i've had it since my mom passed away and never was able to open it. i know a lot of ppl whom have read it tho. she also has a new book out called motherless mothers. i would def pick it up. it covers the major milestones in your life.

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Posted by J79

i love that poem. so all that was said as you started your ceremony?

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It was. I wanted to make sure I included her and my DH's father and it just seemed right to do it from the start..

This is a topic I didn't think I'd talk about on here. Not really interested in elaborating on the details, but I am a motherless bride as well.

It's very difficult, especially seeing/hearing about all of the brides shopping with their moms and at certain milestones during the planning.

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Posted by mellyrose

This is a topic I didn't think I'd talk about on here. Not really interested in elaborating on the details, but I am a motherless bride as well.

It's very difficult, especially seeing/hearing about all of the brides shopping with their moms and at certain milestones during the planning.

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i completely agree with it being hard and seeing everybody post abt their moms. i wrote the same post on 2011 and ppl wrote back saying i have my mom, sorry with hugs. i wrote back thanks for the hugs but pls only respond if you don't have your mom.

where would you talk about it then?

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Posted by canmigs

I am as well. My mom passed away during my senior year of high school. It has been hard getting married, having children, and getting divorced all without her there. Now to finally be in a happy and healthy relationship and not have her with me to share it is very hard.

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since we're on this topic...you're actually getting married on my Mom's birthday! xo

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Posted by J79
where would you talk about it then?

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I just meant in general...didn't intend on bringing it up. I'll FM you.

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Posted by mellyrose

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Posted by J79
where would you talk about it then?

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I just meant in general...didn't intend on bringing it up. I'll FM you.

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yeah, def take it to FM. i agree...just in the midst of 'a moment'

I lost my mother a month and a half before the wedding, I never thought that I would be a motherless bride.

I made sure her memory was there with having her favorite flowers as part of the centerpieces, my family and I got together to comfort each other and say that she had the best seat in the house.

one regret is I didnt put up a memorial table for her or my father, I didnt have any pictures of my dad, and was still reeling to think coherently to get anything together for a candle or memorial table

I lost my dad....I know its not the same as losing a mom but just as important (I feel)........
................i am having a hard time dealing with the fact that he wont physically be there to share this joyous day

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Posted by JennandAnthony

I lost my dad....I know its not the same as losing a mom but just as important (I feel)........
................i am having a hard time dealing with the fact that he wont physically be there to share this joyous day

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def just as important! a mom, dad, sister or brother are on the same level. a grandparent...is not

FM me if you'd like to discuss more.