Im about to make the new bc budget and fh

Fh has no worries about the budget and now I feel like an episode of rich bride/ poor bride. I originally didnt want to spend more than 20k eventhough I know we could have done more. I decided to sit down and figure out our savings per week and budget. With everything now booked and all the little extras because fh we might make it with 4k to put in savings. How the hell am I 3x our budget with a little more then 2x already paid out. I will have to harm fh if he says 'we can afford it' or 'stop stressing one more time

sorry so long. vent over