My wedding is going to take place. They refuse to change the date and I dont know how happy I am right now but the hall told DH and even sent us a letter stating basically that if I dont pay I will be sued. The letter states falsly that they tried calling us numerous times to no avail. They called my house once didnt leave a message and DH called her right back and she never returned his call, the second time he called they said she was in with someone and the third time they told him that she was off for two days! The letter also stated that they were very patient with us but it is what it is. I understand that it's a business and I realize a contract is a contract so besides the lies in the letter I have nothing to complain about with them. My mother turned us down for a 3month loan and that's a story in it's own. My sister is going to help us out with what ever she can. I will also have to sell what ever I can but I tell you this really takes all the fun and joy out of what was supposed to be my special day. My family has been really unsupportive so I dont know where this is going to go. Im really ready to rent a family for the wedding Just wanted to give those who know the story an update and thanks for listening. Im on my way to school and Im in no mood for clinicals tonight.
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I'm so sorry you are going through all this!
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I'm sorry you have to deal with this. Just to clarify, this is the third or fourth time you've cancelled and rescheduled your date with them, right? I am obviously somewhat biased, since this is my hall, but I can see both sides and would understand why they wouldn't want to let you push it back again (especially less than 3 months to the wedding, since it is unlikely to be rebooked).
I'm so sorry your family isn't helping out. Are there other things you can cut back on, like DIY centerpieces, drop-off limo service, etc? I know I sent you some long FMs a few weeks ago about some suggestions for saving $$$ and making $$$, but I wish you the best. I really hope you can enjoy your day, and I hope everything works out for you.
Have you asked the NRC if someone else took over your date they might let you out of the contract? Can you explain your situation to the NRC and tell them you won't be able to pay on the original schedule, but ask for a week after the wedding to get it together? They probably don't want to sue you because it can get expensive with court/atty fees, so maybe they would be willing to work with you? I hope?
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Posted by bluegreen08
I'm sorry you have to deal with this. Just to clarify, this is the third or fourth time you've cancelled and rescheduled your date with them, right? I am obviously somewhat biased, since this is my hall, but I can see both sides and would understand why they wouldn't want to let you push it back again (especially less than 3 months to the wedding, since it is unlikely to be rebooked).
I'm so sorry your family isn't helping out. Are there other things you can cut back on, like DIY centerpieces, drop-off limo service, etc? I know I sent you some long FMs a few weeks ago about some suggestions for saving $$$ and making $$$, but I wish you the best. I really hope you can enjoy your day, and I hope everything works out for you.
Have you asked the NRC if someone else took over your date they might let you out of the contract? Can you explain your situation to the NRC and tell them you won't be able to pay on the original schedule, but ask for a week after the wedding to get it together? They probably don't want to sue you because it can get expensive with court/atty fees, so maybe they would be willing to work with you? I hope?
I dont blame them either it was just the letter that bothered me because they made stuff up in the letter. I fully understand that this is a business. This is the second time we rescheduled and one of the times was because the girl we booked with who is no longer there helped us pick a date we could afford and I told her it had to be tentative because I didnt know if we could find a church on a Monday but they count it anyhow. God willing I have no choice but to cut back and figure it out. It would just help if my family was more supportive instead of quick with the I told you so and pointing fingers at me.
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I am really, really sorry you are going through this. Are there any creative ways you can think of to make extra money? Maybe a talent you have that you could use to make things (I make cards and plan to start selling them on ebay) and sell them?
Just trying to help .. hope you can work through this and make it the best day of your life. Good luck and please keep us updated.
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I'm sorry what is supposed to be one of the happiest days of your life has now turned into such drama.
What does FH say about all this? In your prior posts, it sounded like he was the cause of a lot of angst.
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I'm sorry to hear that your going through all of this. I hope everything will work out and you can enjoy your special day.
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Im sorry that they arent being helpful To help you save money until the wedding-have you called some of your vendors and asked to pay balances after the wedding? like your photographer, videographer? I know money got tight with us and knowing that some of my balances were due after the day made it a little easier.
Good Luck
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im sorry you are going through this and i hope everything works out for you.
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Thank you! DH is and was alot of my issues because I guess I was expected to do everything including coming up with the bills and wedding money. Now he is trying more but it's only been a week lets see if it continues. I have two things to me that are very important to me and Im going to have to see if I can sell them. It's going to kill me to do it but it will kill me even more to ruin my credit after just getting it back on track and not be able to buy a house for my kids to live in. I am also going to see if I can get my credit lines increased to atleast double of what they are now(I just started to rebuild my credit so my credit limits arent very high)and then just pay them in full after the wedding. I havent even booked my photographer yet and I'll have to talk to the florist. I've cut all my little extras out that were going to make my wedding mine if you know what I mean. I will be using my taxes in full, student loans from school and my sister is lending us what she can(but with her track record I dont know if I can count on it). I am going to put alot of clothes and toys that I was going to donate to the church on ebay and see what happens. Right now it just seems impossible but thank you all for supporting me through it all. Hopefully the wedding wont turn out to be something I regret all though I cant imagine right now how it wont.
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I am so sorry you have to go through all this. What about if you took a loan from the bank and paid it right off after the wedding. I think alot of people do that. it's tough to have to come up with all this now like this.
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Tell your DH to start going through his stuff that is valuable that can be sold. It's his wedding too! I know you've had your issues with him, but don't just have everything coming from you.
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I've already told him to start pricing out his baseball card collection and of course I get oh yeah definetly and then it's oh I didnt have time. As far as a loan I cant do anything right now because we just finished a bankruptcy in June to try to get everything back on track and to hopefully be able to buy a house in about 2yrs. This is why I refuse to be put back in that position of being sued and owing people money I cant pay back. Im going to speak to my credit card companies and see if I can get my credit lines increased and then just pay them all off after the wedding. My limits now are very minimal because of my bankruptcy so I dont know what's going to happen.
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I am glad you posted an update, I only wish you peace during this difficult time. Big hugs to you
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I am glad you posted an update, I only wish you peace during this difficult time. Big hugs to you
Thanks DH got in touch with the DJ and they were fantastic. They told him they would do anything to help. He contacted the hall and they told him fine but basically when can we give them more money. He said they were very short on the phone and could really care less, however, it is a business and as long as they get their money why should they care. I know he was calling the limos and the florist but I had clinicals last night and he went to work for his dad so I havent seen him yet I dont know what happened. He also called to set up therapy but the guy cant accomodate us with our schedules. So he called back the church to see if there is someone else they can set us up with but no one has called back yet. I ordered the paper to make my invites yesterday to save money there, my slipper baskets were made before the problem and my votive centerpieces were also paid for before hand so all I have left is my favors and I found cute ones really cheap but Im holding off to see how the finances go. We didnt get to hiring a photographer before everything went crazy so Im waiting on that too and then it will just be a minimal package of proofs. Friday is going to be a busy day for me because I dont have school so I can get caught up on getting things sold. Please just pray for me to keep my sanity and for this to all come together. Thanks
