I'm getting over it! lol

I'm getting over it! lol

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'you're wrong, get over it.'

now seriously, i can understand why you would be mad but you really can't claim your spot... or your hall, photographer, your year, etc. plus, she might always think of it as your spot and not her own. oh well, nothing really you can do about it so no use getting upset.

however, it's prob a bad idea for her parents to be pressuring him to propose. that should happen on the couple's timeline.

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I can't really tell you you're wrong - because I don't think that you are! This guy doesn't sound very creative, or committed - if he can't even think of a special place of theirs to pop the question, he probably shouldn't be proposing! He had to go and steal YOURS!!! Not cool!!! Soooo Not Cool!!!

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get over it...

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The night that I got engaged happened to be my friends anniversary...this was also the night she got engaged...neither of us were upset because WE did not make the plans...our FHs did...so I would say...dont be mad

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PS - Don't be too angry with your girlfriend though...she doesn't know. I would def. talk to her about getting engaged so quickly though - It's a HUGE step - and shouldn't be something you rush into!! Good Luck!!

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where is the spot? if its a common spot where a lot of people might have gotten engaged than maybe i wouldnt be upset - but if its a specific spot like 'your' spot than i probably would be a little upset or at least think it was strange....but i think your friend might be more upset than you - b/c her guy isnt that creative - doesnt he know your FH proposed there already? if my FH proposed to me in the same place my friend got proposed to - id be like ***?

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Posted by bluegreen08

'you're wrong, get over it.'

now seriously, i can understand why you would be mad but you really can't claim your spot... or your hall, photographer, your year, etc. plus, she might always think of it as your spot and not her own. oh well, nothing really you can do about it so no use getting upset.

however, it's prob a bad idea for her parents to be pressuring him to propose. that should happen on the couple's timeline.

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I agree. FH and I got engaged in July 07 and we are planning a Dece 08 wedding. His cousin just got engaged on Valentines Day - he's only been with the girl for like a year, he just proposed and they are planning a wedding for this summer - so even though they got engaged way after us they are getting married way before us....FH and I do not own the year 2008 to get married - so I'm not upset about it all - the only thought that crossed my mind, was oh sh!t, what if she gets the same dress as me! But anyway, our wedding isnt going to be any less special b/c his cousin is having a wedding a few months before ours...Im happy for his cousin and I have a feeling that our weddings are going to be completely different anyways - summer vs. winter - so its no biggie....that how i try and look at things....

try not to let it get to you.....its still 'your' spot with FH even if 100 people get engaged there

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At least you were the first.

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Maybe the guy didn't know you got engaged at this spot? Your best friend knows but maybe she didn't tell him...I don't know

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Yea, at least when she tells her story, people would say 'oh isn't that where babieblueeyez96 got engaged' ?? I knew I was going to marry FH the 1st month we were going out, thats because I knew him my whole life. She should take it slow, maybe have a long engagement. I wouldn't worry about if I were you, everyone else knows that was 'your' place.

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You're right- you can't claim the spot..





But I would be PISSED too
Tell him to grow some creativity

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Posted by bluegreen08

'you're wrong, get over it.'

now seriously, i can understand why you would be mad but you really can't claim your spot... or your hall, photographer, your year, etc. plus, she might always think of it as your spot and not her own. oh well, nothing really you can do about it so no use getting upset.

however, it's prob a bad idea for her parents to be pressuring him to propose. that should happen on the couple's timeline.

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Completely agree.

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I understand why you're upset, it would bother me too. But you had the ring and the proposal spot first so dont worry...LOL

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Does this guy even know that it was 'your' spot? If he doesn't, I wouldn't be upset about it. In all honesty, even if he did, I wouldn't let yourself get all upset about it either. I know it seems like a big deal to you right now but it doesn't make your engagement any less special. It's a seperate issue. Don't Worry

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I would be upset

Is it a place where a lot of people get engaged? Or is it a place where your FH picked out special?

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Thank you everyone, i feel a little better, I appreciate all your comments and I am starting to get over it!!! :)