We ordered our invites, and they are coming in either this week or next week. They need the addresses so they can address the envelopes. Well my parents have been great and have gotten almost 95% of the addresses. I have told FMIL for three weeks I need the addresses, she's like I know, I promise to get them for you..and still I haven't gotten them!!! I'm ready to scream!!!!
Thumballina
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Try not to get to upset about this...I mean after all she has known for some time that she needs to get you these addresses...if she doesn't then her guests don't get invitations (I know thats horrible to say) I would tell her one more time...the inviatations are in and are getting ready to go...my mother has given me her addresses...if she still doesn't respond fast enough to that...mail what you have and let her send out the ones to her guests...
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I told FH that, I said, listen, they aren't ppl I know, I don't care....so they won't get invites..thats all.....still nothing.....she hasn't even looked for a dress yet.....UGH
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I was having the same issue with my FMIL. Finally I told my FH if I didn't get the addresses then the people FMIL wanted invited would not be getting an invitation...I don't know most of them anyway! I had all the addresses a week later.
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Can you plan a date where you can just go over there and actually address her side at her house, so she has to get them out for you. It stinks when you have to rely on unorganized people to do things for the wedding!
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Posted by pickles16
I told FH that, I said, listen, they aren't ppl I know, I don't care....so they won't get invites..thats all.....still nothing.....she hasn't even looked for a dress yet.....UGH
Sorry that you have to go through this unecessary stress...has someone check to make sure the fire underneath her bum didn't go out... I'd be upset also...try to relax and realize that shes doing all this to herself...you have enough things to worry about..
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This happened to us and we ended up just handing a batch of invites to his parents and telling them to deal with the addressing themselves. Not the nicest situation, but after asking them for MONTHS for the addresses, there was nothing else I could do. At least I knew the batch going to my family and friends would be nicely addressed.
Sorry, I know how frustrating this can be. Good luck!
pickles16
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OOOH I like that idea FTS!!!!
salsbride06
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maybe you can call here and tell her that you are coming over on a certain date and get all the addresses then.
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I hear this all too well. My FMIL is the most unorganized person I know. I asked her for addresses for our engagement party and her own family...she didn't have their exact address. She wasn't sure of street or avenue in one case. For another she told me she'd 'drive by and write down the address'!!
Now my mom is going through the same thing with the shower....with other addresses! Then her side didn't respond to the shower. My mom was like 'what kind of people are these?!?!'
I dread getting the rest of her addresses. I'd just hand them to her and let her address them, but I want all of them to look nice! Why can't she just have these addresses???
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I put my DH in charge of getting addresses. What really worked was when I mailed out our invites and there was a pile of about 15 envelopes without addresses from his side of the family. Then his mother got her a$$ in gear.
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Posted by FTS
This happened to us and we ended up just handing a batch of invites to his parents and telling them to deal with the addressing themselves. Not the nicest situation, but after asking them for MONTHS for the addresses, there was nothing else I could do. At least I knew the batch going to my family and friends would be nicely addressed.
Sorry, I know how frustrating this can be. Good luck!
Great idea, I think that in the end SHE will be embarrassed because it is HER guests who won't be there if she doesnt put a fire on under her tail.
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I put my DH in charge of getting addresses. What really worked was when I mailed out our invites and there was a pile of about 15 envelopes without addresses from his side of the family. Then his mother got her a$$ in gear.
I was thinking the same thing. Let her know that you already mailed some of yours (true or not), maybe that will give her a push. If it doesn't, just give her the invites to address on her own.
