I'm going to strangle him...Please help me...especially the guys here...

My DH has a habit of 'cleaning up'. As in, grabbing everything he can find and throwing it in a corner somewhere, and of course, he can never remember where he puts things, and will then deny that he touched ANYTHING.

I really need to explain the importance of not doing this. I have begged, argued, been nasty, cried. But, it's like it's just second nature, like a habit, like he doesn't realize he's doing it.

Current list of missing items:

His cell phone

Key to the laundry room (we've had a load in the dryer for TEN days now. Once we admit that we lost the key, we have to pay for a new lock and for new keys for everyone in the development)

My jewelry 'stash'...a diamond tennis bracelet, diamond earrings, family heirlooms (probably a couple thousand dollars worth of jewelry)

I recently found our Halloween decorations that were brand new, stashed behind his sweaters. When we couldn't find them in time for Halloween, he adamently denied that he EVER touched them

Vaccuum cleaner attachements (a $600 vaccuum that is almost worthless because we're missing some of the attachments)

My shoes. I work in the city. So, as soon as I come inside, I take off my shoes so that I don't walk around our home with my city-dirty shoes. Well, then he says they're 'in the way' and puts them in a closet. Somewhere...who knows. I have been frequently late for work because I can't find my shoes.

My ID card for my office in NJ. Of course, if I admit that I lost it, I have to pay for a new one.

Well, as for the jewels and the ID badge, it is possible that I misplaced them. But, very unlikely.

What's 'guy language' for 'Stop touching my SH!T'!

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Posted by suven


What's 'guy language' for 'Stop touching my SH!T'!

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'Stop touching my SH!T'!

Um... that should do it.

My husband does this too - but with his own stuff - and he'll screaml at me for 'moving things' which I didn't.

Then, I will find it and he'll smile sweetly and say something like, See I told you it was there.

He did this with the title to his car just before going to DMV.

My DH is the opposite. He would be happy if everything he owned was in the center of the living room...that way he would know exactly where everything is. Maybe you can agree on homes for these items that he insists on 'putting away', this way you always know where they are.

I am the one who puts things away and he complains he can never find anything. The funny thing is I have thrown away new stuff of his...he will have a shopping bag on the floor in the middle of the room...I will look inside....looks empty and then throw it away. Ends up there was a $80 shirt in there...OOPS...this has happened more than once!

--well, mayeb yiu need to establish set places for things- like ok, if you are going to put my shoes away, put them on the rack in this closet. . .

For the laundry, can you follow someone else into the laundry room, to get your stuff out. You will probably find the key eventually, but you need your clothes!

Try a basket/tray thing. I got one for me because my DH leaves things all over and I hate clutter. So now instead of throwing the wrong thing out I put keys, mail, little pieces of paper, etc in this baset and he knows to go through it when he can't find something.

I know it won't work for your shoes but maybe you could have some kind of storage area designated - like someone mentioned a closet or a big basket..

Good luck!!

I don't know if its a guy thing. My DH loves things to be neat but when it comes to organizing his things he has no clue.

I have been trying to help him organize our papers and his things. He has gotten better but just yesterday he lost his watch and he thought he threw it in the garbage but it turns out he just dropped on the floor under the bed. Basically he sometimes misplaces things because he doesn't put them away properly.

He is getting better but it can be a struggle at times. It is tough to break DH's of bad habits. If your DH doesn't want to change, he probably won't unless if its his own accord. But since you are married, he should
compromise.

He needs to see he has a problem first. I wish I could tell you what to do to move this along. Hopefully others have some good ideas. All I can think of is trying to change his habits in baby steps.