I was just wondering if anyone ever kicked a bridesmaid out of their wedding party? I really did not want her in the party to begin with but when I told her that I was engaged last year she said 'OK, so what color am I wearing'...she invited herself and now she is causing problems and making it quite apparent that she is not a good friend of mine at all!!! UGH!!! I am so frustrated! She ordered her dress but it hasn't come in yet, I almost want to give it to someone else!!!
If you did kick someone out of your wedding party...was it worth it or should I just 'suck it up?' Thanks!!
dm24angel
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I'm sorry you are going through this...2 of my BM's are not very into the wedding, I barely ever speak to them, but I'm sucking it up and just not counting on them etc, I still have 2 others who are there till the end....What kind of trouble / issues are arising from her? I think thats the deciding factor?
OSCARtheGROOM
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I think you should suck it up. You asked her to be in it. Confront her and ask her what her problem is? Get it all out in the open. Good luck.
Bride2B93
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She is a very negative, jealous, competitve and petty person and I guess I just feel that I don't want someone like that in my life anymore. It is very frustrating to be dealing with someone like this (I am 28 and she is 31) I feel like I am stuck in high school!
I know that I will have to suck it up but it is so frustrating that she is NOT looking at for my best interest and it seems as if she is trying to sabotage things! She says bad things about my MOH and tells me that I shouldn't have picked my MOH and that she should have been my MOH....she tells me that no one is planning a shower for me...it is too much to list!
Like I said earlier, I didn't want her to be a BM but I didn't want to cause any confrontation when she just invited herself to be a part of the bridal party!!!
UGHHH!!
Thank you all for listening!! I'm sorry I just had to vent!!
BriBri529
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Posted by dm24angel
I'm sorry you are going through this...2 of my BM's are not very into the wedding, I barely ever speak to them, but I'm sucking it up and just not counting on them etc, I still have 2 others who are there till the end....What kind of trouble / issues are arising from her? I think thats the deciding factor?
I agree . . . I am going through something similar, but am sucking it up too. I agree that the deciding factor is the exact troubles that she has created . . .
MrHostility
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Kick her out if you must, but don't make her pay for the dress then.
RedHead
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Well i just looked at your date 8/22 and i think it is a little late to cut her out.
I did knock someone out. She was totally MIA with wedding plans and issues. I pretty much gave her a month to go get measured for her dress. 2 days before the deadline she said she would go 3 days later. I said be ther by the deadline or the order goes out as is. Needless to say she never made it. I know that sounds harsh but i really wasn't. she, out of all the girls was closest to the wedding salon, had the most time and it was not a money issue. It was an avoidance issue. But since this girl wants to be in yours and you haven't kicked her out as of yet...suck it up. But i would be blatantly honest and tell her stop talking s***.
Janine24
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I don't think I would kick her out... can you talk to her though and ask her what the problem is? do you think she is trying to get you to 'kick her out' of the bridal party on purpose since maybe she doesn't want to do it anymore?
