I'm not engaged anymore...

It's with mixed emotions that I write this but, the strongest emotion I have right now is relief. Without getting into all the details, my former fiance and I have called off our engagement. We always had problems stemming from the issues that I had with his sisters and with the fact that he would habitually put their needs and wants before mine. He has the type of sisters who really resented the fact that their brother was getting married and was going to have to share his life with another woman. Unfortuately, as a woman there will always be another who will not be happy for you when you find someone and they themselves have no one. Basically, he was my priority and I was not his. I had put up with and even at one point conviced myself that maybe this is how it should be, that it was good that he cared so much for his family. Recently I started seeing the error of my thinking and realized that this was not the type of marriage that I wanted. I'm happier now and feel like a weight has been lifted of my shoulders. I feel like family is important too, but It should not be the only important thing to you especially when you are getting ready to start your life someone. I feel like I should have felt important too. I would never let anyone disrespect him ever, but time and time again they were disrespectful to me and mean to me and he never said anything about it.

I have really enjoyed posting on this site and there is no better group of brides in the world! You ladies really rock and I hope that you have the greatest wedding days and even greater marriages. You will all make beautiful brides and deserve all the happiness in the world!

To my former super twin Janice: You are going to make a radiant bride! You deserve the best and I hope the Swan Club exceeds every expectation you have! I also wish you much happiness and love in you marriage!



And to all of you brides and grooms: Enjoy planning your big day and cherish each other every day