Im on nooky Strike

LisaAnne Posted: Feb 26, 2003 07:58 PM

Im on nooky Strike

Have any of you Ladies ever went on Strike. Meaning no nookey for the guy. I need excitement here and so I decided until I get some good, no wham bam thank you mam, I am on strike until he makes an effort. Not thaat he dosent try its just repetive. Roll over im done my A$$. I just look at him and sigh. So I need advice on spiceing thing up here, Any ideas here. I need help. Sorry to bother you with this. I dont know who else to ask. I need my sisters help. Beleve it or not it is making me sad. HELP

XOXO
Lisa

WithThisRing Posted: Feb 26, 2003 08:02 PM

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There is a book called '1001 ways to be romantic'
maybe that book can give you ideas on how to spice things up.

maybe some sexy lingerie, wine, roses, candles.

do you have a wedding song picked?? If so, wear a sexy outfit, and play your wedding song.

if i think of anything else i'll post...thats all i got so far

jennbaby Posted: Feb 26, 2003 08:27 PM

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You are cute Lisa Anne!

Jen2704 Posted: Feb 27, 2003 02:40 AM

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Lisa did you sit with your fh and talk with him about this? Maybe he is just not getting it?

Well to answer your question...candles, bubble bath, music, champagne, strawberries and lingerie of course!!

Hope it works out and that the nooky strike ends soon!!

Becky Posted: Feb 27, 2003 07:58 AM

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I am not sure that a Strike is the way to go No sense in depriving both of you completely. I think you need to discuss this with him, but not right after a wham bam thank you mam session. He will probably not be receptive to critisism at that moment, even if it is constructive. Try to bring it up outside of the bedroom, to take some pressure off and tell him what you need. Not sure if you tried this already and the sighing is a last resort

Good luck, Lisa. I hope you cross the picket line soon!

BridesmaidForNow Posted: Feb 27, 2003 08:02 AM

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Buy some sexy lingerie...turn down the lights, turn up the music and treat your man to a striptease that he soon won't forget!!

Mary Posted: Feb 27, 2003 09:33 AM

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I agree that striking is not the best route. I think you should sit down, explain to him how unfair the current situation is and discuss how to make it better. Honestly, that will probably be more fun!! If he does not understand how you feel, all the sexy lingerie won't do any good (P.S. My husband prefers me in a cotton tank with boxers over the laciest nightie!!)

mims107 Posted: Feb 27, 2003 09:52 AM

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I definitely agree that all the romantic candles and lingerie will be lost on him if he doesn't understand WHY you are doing it! He might think you are doing it for HIM!! (in fact.. most guys would)

Talking to him is the way to go. I agree that this should be done OUTSIDE the bedroom, on neutral territory. Don't forget to mention what you DO like about your lovemaking, as well as what you would like to ADD to the routine. The male ego is very fragile, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't express your needs.

You might want to also ask, (so that he understands that you care about his needs also) what he would like?

nrvbrd Posted: Feb 27, 2003 09:55 AM

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Lisa Anne, my one question to you is :

Do you intitate or do you wait for him to take the lead?

Men do not like to be the aggressors in that area all the time. They like to be seduced and an assertive woman is a turn on to them.

You should take control in the bedroom, surprise him with a new position- It will blow him away.

I cannot believe I am typing this.

mims107 Posted: Feb 27, 2003 10:00 AM

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Oh yeah... what nrvbrd said too!!!!

Sometimes 'showing' him what you like is easier then telling LOL!

nrvbrd Posted: Feb 28, 2003 11:38 AM

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Lisa, did you take any of our advice.

I was thinking of you last night.

dgtlsunshine Posted: Feb 28, 2003 11:41 AM

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Never deprived your husband of your body. Always be grateful your husband wants your body. Plenty wifes don't have that.

Spice things up. You become more loving and he will follow.

Just my 2cent

Sassy Posted: Feb 28, 2003 11:43 AM

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I wouldnt strike.
Definitley talk to him, let him know how you're feeling, then follow some of the above advice on spicing things up. And I agree, NOTHING wrong w/being the agressor
Good Luck

nrvbrd Posted: Feb 28, 2003 11:46 AM

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I do not know if I agree completely about witholding sex. There have been times and I am getting somewhat personal here when I intiate and FH is like I am too tired- fine it happens, but then when I am too tired he does not get it and expects it.

No way- I refuse to be taken for granted so I said no or 'withheld' and now he knows better.

I guess what I am saying is that neither person should take each other for granted.

Lisa Anne, as I said yesterday take the lead and be the agressor sometimes,you will be surprised at his reaction.