Im pissed...updated

I'm just wondering if he didn't tell you bc he didn't know about it or if he didn't tell you bc he knew you would be pissed and he didn't want to deal with it?

My advice for you is don't think about it. There is nothing you can do about it. What's done is done. You are marrying him for a reason and one of those reasons is trust. Yes, strippers are gross and disgusting but your FH has you to come home to. Unless he has done something in his past to make you distrust him- give him the benefit of the doubt.

When he gets home control yourself. Don't start yelling and screaming at him. I know that if it were me, the minute FH walked in the door I would let him have it....but, you won't get any answers that way. Calm and cool. See what he has to say. Then if you don't like it....yell away!

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Posted by JIFFY

I'm just wondering if he didn't tell you bc he didn't know about it or if he didn't tell you bc he knew you would be pissed and he didn't want to deal with it?

My advice for you is don't think about it. There is nothing you can do about it. What's done is done. You are marrying him for a reason and one of those reasons is trust. Yes, strippers are gross and disgusting but your FH has you to come home to. Unless he has done something in his past to make you distrust him- give him the benefit of the doubt.

When he gets home control yourself. Don't start yelling and screaming at him. I know that if it were me, the minute FH walked in the door I would let him have it....but, you won't get any answers that way. Calm and cool. See what he has to say. Then if you don't like it....yell away!

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well put

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Posted by JIFFY

I'm just wondering if he didn't tell you bc he didn't know about it or if he didn't tell you bc he knew you would be pissed and he didn't want to deal with it?

My advice for you is don't think about it. There is nothing you can do about it. What's done is done. You are marrying him for a reason and one of those reasons is trust. Yes, strippers are gross and disgusting but your FH has you to come home to. Unless he has done something in his past to make you distrust him- give him the benefit of the doubt.

When he gets home control yourself. Don't start yelling and screaming at him. I know that if it were me, the minute FH walked in the door I would let him have it....but, you won't get any answers that way. Calm and cool. See what he has to say. Then if you don't like it....yell away!

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Oh I will! Hes never done anything bad, and I really do know that he wouldnt do anything tonight...but that dosent take my nautia away thinking about those chicks pushin their bits in his face. Yick. But thanks...Ill let you know if hes alive tomorrow or not.

i gotta give u credit.

If i was you, i would of been in the car the minute i found out and dragged him out by his u know whats.

Call me psycho or crazy. but i would just never stand for hired strippers in a rented house. There is just no reason on gods green earth for that in my book.

and honestly - it's just not smart to be 'alone' in a house with strippers...there are other employees & bouncers at strip clubs...after that whole thing with the stripper accusing those Duke lacrosse players of all that nonsense...you just don't want to put yourself in that position....

men are just so freakin' dumb sometimes...

Update...well now he never called last night. I spoke to him around 830ish...he was apologizing...said they were coming around 10...and never talked to him after that. If he knew what was good for him he would have called me at 10 from another room and stayed on the phone with me while they were there. That WOULD have been a good idea. I dont even know what to say to him when gets back I wish I could have you all here when he walks in the door so we can bash him together.

I know that this is not going to be a popular response here but if I was in your situation, I wouldn't be mad. Honestly, it's his brother. What was he going to do? He obviously didn't tell you b/c he knew it would upset you and he probably didn't want to deal with any grief before going to his brother's bachelor party. I can definitely understand your annoyance but he couldn't not go to his brother's bp.

On the other hand, if he planned this whole shin-dig on the sly, that's a different story and he'd be in deep poo poo when he got home.

Good luck with everything! And if you are that mad, remove all hard and sharp objects from the house before he gets home!

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Posted by lollipop

I know that this is not going to be a popular response here but if I was in your situation, I wouldn't be mad. Honestly, it's his brother. What was he going to do? He obviously didn't tell you b/c he knew it would upset you and he probably didn't want to deal with any grief before going to his brother's bachelor party. I can definitely understand your annoyance but he couldn't not go to his brother's bp.

On the other hand, if he planned this whole shin-dig on the sly, that's a different story and he'd be in deep poo poo when he got home.

Good luck with everything! And if you are that mad, remove all hard and sharp objects from the house before he gets home!

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Thats good advice...thanks. I think Im extra agitated because Im having all of these medical problems with endrometriosis and their putting me through menapause and blah blah. Needless to say...feeling so unsexy and broken...and then having to think that some chick is pushing her 'working' parts in his face kills me. Thats really where it all stems from. And he knows thats why. Thats what makes me ANGRY.

Do you really think he is going to tell you what happened at a private party!!!

You said he called you at 8:30 and the strippers were coming at 10:00 last nite. U said they were out east, that gave u an hour and a half to go there and drag him out of that house

its unacceptable in my book. When you commit to a woman, there is no excuse to have to go and see nude skanky strippers who will do anything in a private home. A commitment is a commitment and i think alot of women are blind and turn the other cheek when it comes to this

JMHO

Wow I read my FH all of these posts bc last year we got into a HUGE fight for my brothers bachelor party..i was at my FSIL at the time bachlorette party and they were in atlantic city and we were all under the impression that there werent going to be any strippers...WELL my boyfriend at the time called me and said well i found out they ordered strippers to the hotel room two of them! it basically ruined my night and was upset thinking about it the entire night.. well when he came home i wanted to know what went on and he was telling me bits and pieces and finally came out and told me most of it.. then a week later we ran into pictures ( one of the guys stupidly posted them on a kodak site and my SIL got the password and found them.).can I tell you it was disgusting ..some of the guys had their pants down!!!! well one reason why my FH was mad was bc he stood in the corner with another guy bc he knew how upset i would be and got ragged on bc he didnt include himself ..and in the group picture they took he ducked down...well i got over it and now guess what my other brother is getting married in march and going to vermont and renting a house for skiing and guess whats gonna be there more strippers at the his bachlor party!!! i cant really say much bc it is my wonderful brothers that are planning this and my FH is in his wedding party but that it still irritates the heck out of me to even think of it!! well jan is the next one and the girls are going to south beach for the bachlorette party but ugh just repulsing...sorry so long!!

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I'm sorry sweetie. I'd be pissed too

I'm sorry you girls are going through this. Maybe I'm naive but I don't understand why men have these stupid parties. If they are ready to promise their undying love to their women that that's it. Once you are engaged its over. No last night of freedom. If they need a last night of freedom then they are not ready to get married. It just disgusts me. If he comes home with a hangover be sure to make as much noise as you can, make really greasy foods to eat and hide all meds (pain relievers and stomach aids )

I would be sooooooo p'd off as well! I would also feel very disrespected.........especially when he didn't even phone you last night before he went to bed/passed out!!!

I'm not saying that he did anything of course, but he kept him self in that situation which he knew that you were not happy about. He should have excused himself from it. Brothers bachelor party or not. My FI dislikes strippers and won't go to a strip club for many reasons but mainly becuase he finds it disrespectful to women, so he would have left that situation (even if it was for his brother)......

I feel so bad for you

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I hope he has a VERY good excuse for not calling you.........