I'm really upset....

I'm having a hard time dealing with things lately. My grandfather on my dad's side is dying slowly (granted he's 89), but it's really hard. All of my grandparents are still living, and death in my family is something that I am not equipped to deal with at all. Ontop of that, my grandmother on my mom's side, whom I am VERY close with, blacked out today from what seems to be a blockage in her arteries. She doesn't take good enough care of herself, and she is so young. So now I am freaked out about that, and as if hearing that when I got home was not enough, my mother then tells me that the doctor called to say my dad's echocardiogram (I think that's what it was) came back showing a problem and that he has thickening of his left wall in his heart from his high blood pressure. I don't know anything about that stuff, but of course I am sitting here assuming the absolute worst. I'm just so upset, and I keep imagining all of these incredibly important people in my life just vanishing all at once. I'm feeling so panicked by this and I just don't know how to deal with it. I needed to get that out. I don't know how JT dealt with his mother having cancer and being in the face of death for so long. Luckily she is a survivor. I don't know how he held himself together because I know if I were faced with the same thing, I would break apart. I don't know how to get my act together Thanks for listening to me, I just needed to get that out.

I feel the same way. I still have my grandparents on my moms side, a grandmother on my dads side, and my great grandmother on my moms side. Not too many of my relatives have died so it make me really sad to see them getting old. Especially my grandfather. He was in his 40s when I was a little kid and I remember him always building things (like our deck in the backyard), digging out tree stumps, stuff like that. He was so strong and could do anything. Now he is almost 70 and he is so frail looking, white hair, skinny. It makes me so sad. Although he is healthy it seems like he is fading away. I know how you feel

Honey I don't have any great words of wisdom, I just wanted to let you know that I will keep everyone in my thoughts and prayers.

to you

Thanks girls

I just went through the heart issue with my grandpa...All i can say is yes it is an ordeal BUT medicine and surgeons today are unbelievable...my grandpa had to have his aortic valve replaced. He went in on a thursday and left the hosptial in 1 week.
His surgery was easier becuase that valve was easily replaced and no chest bones had to be broken...BUT not to worry like i said the miracles they do today are unreal!

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Posted by oct.2004bride

I just went through the heart issue with my grandpa...All i can say is yes it is an ordeal BUT medicine and surgeons today are unbelievable...my grandpa had to have his aortic valve replaced. He went in on a thursday and left the hosptial in 1 week.
His surgery was easier becuase that valve was easily replaced and no chest bones had to be broken...BUT not to worry like i said the miracles they do today are unreal!

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Thank you for letting me know this, and I'm glad your grandpa is ok

Yes he is getting better everyday..thanks
And don't worry too much sweetie things will be ok
Any questions let me know

Rachel, I just want to give you a TON of 's

First some

Second, you have to think positively. Like another poster said already, medicine & technology advances everyday so a lot of things sound worse then they are. My mother has had two blocked arteries and after a minor procedure is fine today (on meds but feels good).

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Posted by ChristineC68

First some

Second, you have to think positively. Like another poster said already, medicine & technology advances everyday so a lot of things sound worse then they are. My mother has had two blocked arteries and after a minor procedure is fine today (on meds but feels good).

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Thank you for sharing this with me. I have a tendency to think the worst (could ya tell?)

Thank you to everyone. It means a lot to me that you took the time to respond! Sometimes you feel like you can't talk to anyone about these things because it shows your weaknesses, so I'm grateful to be able to share it here

Im sorry you are so stressed!!

I must say watching people get old really stinks....over the past month, my grandmother just suffered a heart attack and FH grandmother has a lot of medical issues that are make life very difficult for her.

I tell FH all the time, I don't know if I want to live to my 80's. It sounds weird, but i rather enjoy life as much as possible and go earlier then linger around. My grandmother has been wanting to be with my grandfather for 14 years now.....as she says 'i am just living the days till I can be with him, which i hope is as soon as possible'.....

It is so tough to watch.....my grandmother cannot come (she can't fly) to our wedding, my FH grandmother is on the fence.....so its tough...

Just know that a lot of us are going through the same thing.....so you are not alone...

I can't think of anything that hasn't already been said, but...

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Posted by 121502

I don't know how he held himself together because I know if I were faced with the same thing, I would break apart.

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This is not necessarily true. Have faith in yourself that you will deal with whatever you are faced with because you will!

I don't have any great words of wisdom but I wanted to send hugs your way!

I dont have any words of wisdom either but hang in there!

Thanks ladies. It really is comforting to know someone understands. I guess when things get tough, you tend to think that you are the only one going through it. So to everyone else as a thank you for the ones you gave me!