I'm so ANGRY AND HURT!!!!

so i know i told you guys about what happened with one of the shower invites that went to the wrong adress of a family member that wasn't originally invited to the shower but was invited to the wedding. the girl emailed me to ask me about it even though it said the shower was a surprise. so i asked FH to tell his mom about it and to tell her that because of the mixup we needed to add 2 more people to the guest list so as not to offend. so the issue came up today and FH still never told his mom so my mom was talking to the lady and the lady asked about the invite that she recieved under another family members name and my mom said 'oh its a mistake but yes the invite was for you and your daughter' so I asked FH again if he could speak to his mom and let her know and he refused and said for my mom to call her. then when i yelled at him and said my mom is embaraased enough that she can't offer me what his mom is doing for me that now on top of that she has to call and ask FH's mom to add 2 people to the shower that she is paying for?!?! FH raised his voice and said 'oh you think thats bad? NOBODY IN YOUR FAMILY HAS R.S.V.P'ED ...NOT ONE OF YOUR FAMILY MEMBERS AND ITS PAST THE RSVP DATE!!!'

why tf does he feel the need to let me know that?!?!?! 'here's your bridal shower...your family is a bunch of lazy slackers who don't rsvp' gee how ******* nice! i'm so done with all this ********!!!!!!

I am so sorry to hear this. I am sure if you talk to FH when you both have some time to relax - and if you tell him how much he hurt you by saying that - it will all be fine. He definitely played dirty there and that's not fair.

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Posted by JBoothIn2008

I am so sorry to hear this. I am sure if you talk to FH when you both have some time to relax - and if you tell him how much he hurt you by saying that - it will all be fine. He definitely played dirty there and that's not fair.

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I'm just so sick of all the pompum circumstance...i'm not getting married because i want everyones life to revolve around me for a day...i'm getting married because i want to be with my best friend for the rest of my life and start a family.

instead it turns into a battle of who's family is doing more or paying more and who's being uncooperative in my family and who's not returning phone calls and i'm sick of this wedding throwing stumbling blocks of spats in our path

Since this is a surprise, then you need to stay out of it as much as possible. Don't let your mom call you, have her call FH or your FMIL to straighten things out. It's not your place. This way FMIL can let your mom know to call your family members so that they can say yes or no.

I feel so bad for you! I'm sorry FH snapped at you like that, but maybe there are other things he's not letting on about - for example, I drive my FH nuts with wedding stuff and questions and NAGGING but it's only because I'm getting driven nuts with wedding stuff and questions and NAGGING from my mum. So maybe his mom has been giving him shlt and then when you got upset with him it was just too much.

BUT - I agree. The shower is supposed to be a surprise and it's something someone (whomever it is) is doing for us - we should not have to deal with this crap. We're dealing with the other 999 things that have to be dealth with for this damn wedding!

One other thought . . .

Once things cool down, maybe you and FH can come to a compromise. He'll call his mom to deal with the mixup and you'll call your mom and have her start calling your side that haven't rsvp'd asap.