ok my fh graduated a year and a half ago and has been waiting to get a call from the FAA because he is going to be an air traffic controller and he got a call the other day saying he is going to have an interview in three weeks for syracuse!!! thats almost 5 hours away....im so upset right now and hes mad that im not happy but i can i be happy i dont want to move that far away and he said he would put in a transfer as soon as he would be able to...he still has to go to oklahoma for training for 3 months and im still in school and i have a great job right now and get paid so good and once i graduate in may i have to do 900 hours of internship and i planned on keeping my job bc they are so flexible and now hes saying if he is already going to be there that i should do my internship up there...am i such a bad person that i hate the idea of moving up there and it makes me want to cry everytime i think about it
beachbum05
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you have fm (in a few)
megzzie
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You're not a bad person! I would feel the same way. I wouldn't want to move that far away from my family and friends. Hopefully, he'll do what he said...he'll put in for a transfer asap so you two don't have to move that far away. I hope everything works out...good luck!
AMGBride2008
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no, you're not a bad person. i completely understand where you're coming from. it seems like another setback but just keep your focus on the big picture. all of these sacrifices will help you both in the future. hang in there girl. this could lead to some really great stuff.
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You're not a bad person at all. My bf did this with her DH and it's turned out really well for her. He works for the FDA.
It's an experience and you might end up liking it. Syracuse is a fun town. Plus, he could very well transfer out sooner than you think. I hate to sound like 'be a good little wifey and all' - but if you have the opportunity to move your internship, why not? Plus, it may be even more relaxed up there. It's not permanent right? And you may end up liking it a lot.
For now, join our raunchy posts - it will make you cry - but hopefully with laughter and that's the best medicine!
ETS: it's my friends DH, not FH... and they've lived in Brooklyn, Georgia and now Saratoga, NY. She's loved every minute.
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I think this is just one of those couple obstacles that get thrown your way to make sure your relationship is strong! A lot of couples will relocate for a little while becauase of their jobs. He's not asking you to do it forever. On the bright side, at least you have an internship that you can do in other locations, not many people would have that option. I'm not saying your selfish because I would react the same way you did but there definitely is a silver lining!
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i dont think your a bad person. Unfortunately i know where your at. FH originally was applying to Federal agents and that means you move all the time. If your on a family vacation and work calls he has to get up an leave. (mind u he still has his application in with them) He would have to move to NC for 4 months of training and i can not go. Then when he were to come back they could just place him in ohio with a weeks notice. I flipped a sh!t... there was no way i was going to let this happen i want a family and kids and i want to stay close to my family. But i had to sit back and say he supported everything i wanted to do so i must do the same for him. Fortunately things with them didnt work out but hes still in the NYPD and its not safe but i must support him.
i know it might suck but if he can put in for a transfer soon maybe think about doing a long distance relationship for a little while it made me and FH relationship stronger. Or maybe go there for a little while and see how things go.. You need to talk to FH and see how hes feeling also he needs to know why ur not happy.. tell him your concerns.
HTH... FM if u want!
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You're def. not a bad person! It's not an easy situation to be in but everything happens for a reason (overused but true!) and look at it as an adventure! And at least he is willing to put in for the transfer too! I'm leaving NY this summer to go all the way to NC!!!! But I'm looking at it as an experience and challenge for the both of us. You could do the same and just imagine all the wonderful potential that awaits up there...even if for a short time you never know who you will meet up there and even find a great job too! Life sometimes throws curveballs like this but you two will get thru it!
Now get on the raunchy boards for some smiles, snickers and laughs!!
Mrs. V 2008
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Posted by Mike & Jess
I think this is just one of those couple obstacles that get thrown your way to make sure your relationship is strong! A lot of couples will relocate for a little while becauase of their jobs. He's not asking you to do it forever. On the bright side, at least you have an internship that you can do in other locations, not many people would have that option. I'm not saying your selfish because I would react the same way you did but there definitely is a silver lining!
I totally agree! don't worry everything will work out!
Julybride08
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You are not a bad person. I would feel the same way. I would not want to move 5 hrs away. Espically with planning a wedding and everything. Maybe when he goes for the interview he can ask them if there is anything he can take that is closer to the city.
Belongs2DanBuckley
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Don't be upset....life has a funny way of working itself out in ways you never intended, but many times its completely for the best....you never know what this will bring but if you guys are strong then you'll be fine...good luck!
