I'm so upset...

I had a horrible weekend Long story made short...my brother is married to a girl who is totally messed up. Since the day they got married, she has tried to sabotage any relationship we had with him. She is completely rude and inappropriate and has caused many fights in my family over the years. Somehow, I've always been able to maintain a relationship with my brother (BTW, they live in Georgia). It's gotten really bad recently and they had a huge fight with my parents and now are longer speaking with them. My brother doesn't see her for who she really is and always defends HER and expects us to just take her sh!t.

Anyway, on Saturday he calls me and starts going off on me for NO reason! I guess they got the invitation which made them think and he says that if I don't call his wife and APOLIGIZE to HER for stuff over the last couple of years , they are not coming to my wedding! First of all, she should be apoligizing to us! She is so beyond rude and we've taken it all these years out of respect to him! So he than starts calling me names that I NEVER thought my own brother would say to me and so undeserved!

So the conversation (fight) ended where he told me they are not coming to the wedding and they are out of my life BTW, they have a son, my nephew who is 4.

So now he has cut off my parents and me because this lunatic has him so brainwashed!!! I'm sorry so long but I'm so sad. Me and my brother were sooo close growing up.

so sorry to hear that..

That really stinks. I hope that in time things get better.

I'm so sorry for you!!!
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So sorry to hear that! Maybe try writing him a letter or e-mail when you have calmed down and tell him how you feel...try not to attack his wife in it, although she sounds like a psycho, and just say that you wish things could be more like they were when you were growing up! I have 2 older bros i am close to so i can't even imagine!

His your brother, forget about HER.
Try talking to him when she's not going to be around. Let him know that your not trying to make trouble, you just want your family together again.

I'm so sorry to hear that!!! You could use these....
I'll keep ur brother in my prayers so he gets that biotch fixed!!!!

I agree with the pp. Let the dust clear and then talk. Start with you are my brother and I love you. Add in that you have always imagined him being at your wedding and that you hope he will change his mind. Be nice no matter how much it pains you. Tell him that you are sorry the family has not always seen eye to eye. But don't apologize for anything in particular. Especially for things that you were right about. Try not to play the blame game and don't let him do it either. Don't let the evil sil win. I am not saying you have to be her best friend but you know the saying keep your friends close and your enemies closer . Eventually your brother may see her for who she is and you want to make sure he has a family to come home to when it happens.

Im sorry that you are going thru this-its amazing how some people can be blind to whats really going on. I would maybe email him a letter telling him how upset you are with his actions.

omg I am sooo sorry to hear that!!!!!!!!!! Write him a letter telling him how you feel!!!!!
It's worth a try!
XOXOXO
Kitty

so sorry to hear that

Thank you all for the support...I'm just so hurt right now that I need time to figure it all out. Also my parents are away right now and don't even know what happened. They are going to be devastated

Right now I feel it may be better if they aren't at the wedding because I'm afraid something bad would go down.

I guess time will tell. It just suc*ks to know that my brother has been feeling this way. I wish she would leave him and than things could go back to normal. We all miss the way he was before she came along.

awww i am sooo sorry to hear this especially right before a special time in your life... i hope things get better sweetie