I'm so upset
My sister MOH is so inconciderate!! She has been trying to help me while I'm in Ecuador and I am thankful. But she also agreed to do things (like pick up a slip from someone on here) and never went. She did a good job with my bridal shower although it was a little unorganized and if I didn't happen to have my camera I would prob have no pics that in itself bothered me. I shouldn't be the one having to worry about that stuff especially when she is the one that told me to stay out of it.
I live in South America and I only have 3 weeks to plan my WHOLE wedding down to every detail. She knew about this for MONTHS! She works and goes to school (when she feels like it) which I understand but that means weekends are our only time. So of the three weekends I have here this weekend she decided to go away to vermont (she didnt' plan it until after I had already arrived so its not like it was planned and she couldn't change it!!) Next weekend she is helping her bf's friend move on Saturday and on Sunday she has to come go through her stuff (My parents also just sold their house and have to be out by dec 15. they move into their new place dec 1st) and the last weekend we are having a garage sale/moving sale!! When the hell is she planning on helping me?!?!? I'm only here three weeks!! She couldn't wait three weeks to go away?!?!?! And why is helping her bfs friend move more important than helping her own sister with her wedding!!
She talks crap about my other sister for putting other people before the family(which is sometimes true) but she is doing the same exact thing!! The first few weeks that FH and FDIL were here almost every time we had plans to do something she would cancel out. We were supposed to go to Hard Rock in Yankee Stadium for FH and we were planning it for a wed night and we were having a hard time figuring out which car to take and I said that maybe we shouldn't have told her bfs sister until we knew we had space in the car and she has the nerve to tell me that if she didn't go they (her bf and her) wouldn't go because they were going for HER!! Excuse me for thinking that you were going for your sister and her FH (who by the way took time off of work and went out of his way when they came down to visit us) when your bfs sister lives in the damn country (right here on li) and can go any freaking day she wants!!!! I didn't tell FH that b.c he was already a little upset at what was happening and I didnt' want him to resent my sister. we went that day but it was closed and the day of the shower my sisters bf was supposed to take FH around. He was willing to go anywhere. But when FH mentioned Hard Rock he wouldn't take him because he has to go with his sister. I understand his loyalty but at least they could've driven him and waited outside. All he wanted to do was buy a stupid shirt!! Now his sister can go a million times if she wants and he won't be able to go because he lives in a different damn country!!!
Then she was supposed to take a friday off last week to hang out with us before they left. She tells me that since we weren't going to do anything that special she thinks it would be best to not use her day off because she knows that I will prob need her when I'm here planning the wedding. I thought, cool and least she plans on hanging out with me for that. But then she turns around and uses it to go away!!! I am so disappointed in her.
She called me once when I was down in Ecuador to complain that people were saying that she changed and stuff and that she didnt' care about her friends and family but she didn't think so. From hearing her side I agreed. now that i'm here i realized she did change!! its seems like she puts her bf, his family and his friends before her own. That is not healthy.
plus i'm pmsing so i'm crying now!! crap!! the bell rang i think the inspector just came.
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I went to the door and it was the inspector. He must've thought I was crazy b.c my face is prob all puffy and red!! I just realized how long this is!! Sorry about the long vent!!
I live in South America and I only have 3 weeks to plan my WHOLE wedding down to every detail. She knew about this for MONTHS! She works and goes to school (when she feels like it) which I understand but that means weekends are our only time. So of the three weekends I have here this weekend she decided to go away to vermont (she didnt' plan it until after I had already arrived so its not like it was planned and she couldn't change it!!) Next weekend she is helping her bf's friend move on Saturday and on Sunday she has to come go through her stuff (My parents also just sold their house and have to be out by dec 15. they move into their new place dec 1st) and the last weekend we are having a garage sale/moving sale!! When the hell is she planning on helping me?!?!? I'm only here three weeks!! She couldn't wait three weeks to go away?!?!?! And why is helping her bfs friend move more important than helping her own sister with her wedding!!
She talks crap about my other sister for putting other people before the family(which is sometimes true) but she is doing the same exact thing!! The first few weeks that FH and FDIL were here almost every time we had plans to do something she would cancel out. We were supposed to go to Hard Rock in Yankee Stadium for FH and we were planning it for a wed night and we were having a hard time figuring out which car to take and I said that maybe we shouldn't have told her bfs sister until we knew we had space in the car and she has the nerve to tell me that if she didn't go they (her bf and her) wouldn't go because they were going for HER!! Excuse me for thinking that you were going for your sister and her FH (who by the way took time off of work and went out of his way when they came down to visit us) when your bfs sister lives in the damn country (right here on li) and can go any freaking day she wants!!!! I didn't tell FH that b.c he was already a little upset at what was happening and I didnt' want him to resent my sister. we went that day but it was closed and the day of the shower my sisters bf was supposed to take FH around. He was willing to go anywhere. But when FH mentioned Hard Rock he wouldn't take him because he has to go with his sister. I understand his loyalty but at least they could've driven him and waited outside. All he wanted to do was buy a stupid shirt!! Now his sister can go a million times if she wants and he won't be able to go because he lives in a different damn country!!!
Then she was supposed to take a friday off last week to hang out with us before they left. She tells me that since we weren't going to do anything that special she thinks it would be best to not use her day off because she knows that I will prob need her when I'm here planning the wedding. I thought, cool and least she plans on hanging out with me for that. But then she turns around and uses it to go away!!! I am so disappointed in her.
She called me once when I was down in Ecuador to complain that people were saying that she changed and stuff and that she didnt' care about her friends and family but she didn't think so. From hearing her side I agreed. now that i'm here i realized she did change!! its seems like she puts her bf, his family and his friends before her own. That is not healthy.
plus i'm pmsing so i'm crying now!! crap!! the bell rang i think the inspector just came.
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I went to the door and it was the inspector. He must've thought I was crazy b.c my face is prob all puffy and red!! I just realized how long this is!! Sorry about the long vent!!
