I'm suddenly 'that person' I never thought I'd be

Ok, so I am so surprised by my reaction to what is a very happy situation. A good friend got engaged over the weekend. I am VERY happy for them.!! So, I am embarrassed and ashamed to admit that when she emailed everyone today to say she's getting married in August (a month before me and fh), I actually felt jealous! We've been engaged since March and I'm having the irrational feeling of having been 'lapped.'

I feel so stupid! I am HAPPY for them, their wedding has nothing to do with ours! So why am I feeling deflated or jealous that they're getting married a month before us?

admittedly embarrassed, but please let me know I'm not losing my mind.

Don't worry about it, it happens. I'm sure you have other friends that feel that you 'lapped' them. Just remember that her wedding is different than yours, they are both very special days

You're not nutz!!! It's totally understandable to want all the focus on your wedding. We're all guilty of it at some point.

you're not losing your mind.

look on the bright side -- by attending her wedding first, you'll be able to scrutinize every detail of her wedding and use that experience to improve your own day. And, you and FH get a great opportunity to practice your dance steps!

girl, i don't think you're losing it at all. and at least you know the right feeling is to be happy, even if you have that tinge of jealousy. you can keep it in check. i think what you're feeling is natural. one of my bridesmaids, the only maid actually and not maiden, got engaged this OCT (i was engaged in Apr) and is getting married in Apr, when my wedding is in may. now she's no longer really helping me, its all about her and her wedding. am i jealous, yeah, and oh by the way, her ring is what i wanted, BUT she's my friend, and more than anything i'm HAPPY for her! PLUS all i have to do is remind myself of how much i love my man, and that our futures and the life ahead of me is what is important, not WHEN her wedding is vs. mine. i can compare all i want, but its just like keeping up with the jones, you'll NEVER win, and should measure yourself with comparison.

i can relate to all your feelings, and i think your happiness for her will win out over the long run. don't worry you're not a bad person!