I mentioned yesterday that I had my work shower. Well at the time, I was very happy that I was thought of when a shower was planned for me, but to be honest, I was VERY, and HIGHLY disappointed! At work, I'm the person that always plans things and goes person to person collecting money. I'm a very social and likable person. Well as I knew my 'friends' would plan a shower for me, I didn't think they wouldn't do a bad job, at least that's what I thought. To begin, I did manage to look at one of the invites....it wasn't even an invite, it was a flyer w/ my name and some little clipart on it! It was a total disgrace compared to the invitations I've made for others! Then to top things off, I get to the room, EVERYONE is eating and I don't even get a SURPRISE!!! EVERYONE eat before ME?!!! I didn't even sit with my friends and only got THREE pieces of shrimps!!! To top things off, these 'friends' added on the invitation that the money they collected was for food and a 'gift' If they collected $300 from everyone, that means they should've spent less on food and given me more of a faculty gift....I got a $100 gift certificate from 25 people at work!!!!!! Of the 50 people I work with I would say there are only 3 people I don't quite get along with....That means that I should've had at least 45 ppl contribute something more than $100 worth! One of my co-workers called me today and apologized to me because they too recognized that it was poorly organized and not dignified for me, a person whom has done so much for the school! I do appreciate the thought but if they were going to do something, they should've done something right, not half-assed. And I do believe I'm worth more than $100! W T F can I buy w/ that off my registry?!!!!
RGV07
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jeeeez thats horrrible,the people you work wit are idiots, man i sorry you are going through this
Aug07OFCbride
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Sorry you were disappointed, but to be brutally honest, just try to be appreciative...ppl at work dont need to throw you a shower at all. they went out there way to do it. It just didnt meet your expectations. JMHO!!!
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I totally understand where you're coming from. It's my job to plan stuff at my job too. So I'm sorry your shower wasn't what you had hoped for but at least people now realize how hard you work on these functions.
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Sorry you were disappointed, but to be brutally honest, just try to be appreciative...ppl at work dont need to throw you a shower at all. they went out there way to do it. It just didnt meet your expectations. JMHO!!!
You're very right in every aspect, and I am appreciative to them. I just expect something like that from a co-worker not a friend. What hurts more is that my friends planned this and thought that met their expectations...and that a small staff gift was good knowing that the certificate doesn't even buy me dinner! LOL
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I would be disappointed too. I had to plan my own shower for the same reasons, everyone else just always relies on me for that kinda stuff and it was no different come shower time. at least people recognized they did a poop job and apologized.
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That really stinks that you are the person who always does for everyone else and now that it was your turn you were let down. I would be upset too and you are right...$100 gift certificate from all of your starved co-workers does look rather meager.
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I think that you are being appreciative of the fact that you had a shower, but I can totally see why you were disappointed - I would be too in your case! Trust me, I've planned things for my friends and I'm always the shower planner (babyshower) at the office, so if I were in your shoes and this happened to me, I'd be hurt, disappointed, and upset.
But since it's done, there's not much to do but go out and get the nicest thing you can from your registry for $100. Many many
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I can understand where you are coming from totally, but the last comment you made struck me wrong. I do understand LI is way diffrent than MI, but I have to believe $100 could buy dinner or be put twords a gift. I would also be hurt if a party for me was sloppy and showed no emotion, but the money and gift should never factor into it. Just my 2 cents, and hey I live in MI so maybe it's just another way of thinking about things.
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I understand that you are upset that the effort was not as forthright as you would have liked but I must tell you that this post is rather offensive. I am constantly paying for this ones birthday and that ones baby at work and sometimes all I can give is $5. I would hate to think that someone from work would balk at $100 gift from an office. I think that you should be grateful that ppl you work with wanted to do something for you. Additionally, that $100 should buy you dinner in alot of places and even if you can't get something off your registry (which seems odd) you can at least put it towards something. I don't want to sound harsh but I would be grateful that everyone got together to spend time with you and get you a gift. JMO
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I understand you are upset and I know how it can be difficult when you go out of your way to make sure things are great for everyone else and you dont get the same in return. Try to be appreciative.
Also *** is up with the shrimps? I never get shrimp lol I rather have pizza and a lot more money.
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Well thanks ladies for all your comments....There's no need to continue dwelling on the negative, just make the best of it. And yes, I will spend every last dollar to the cent, on something nice for me and FH (maybe a nighty). I'm not using it towards the registry. Thanx again!
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Posted by Bride4Mike07
I mentioned yesterday that I had my work shower. Well at the time, I was very happy that I was thought of when a shower was planned for me, but to be honest, I was VERY, and HIGHLY disappointed! At work, I'm the person that always plans things and goes person to person collecting money. I'm a very social and likable person. Well as I knew my 'friends' would plan a shower for me, I didn't think they wouldn't do a bad job, at least that's what I thought. To begin, I did manage to look at one of the invites....it wasn't even an invite, it was a flyer w/ my name and some little clipart on it! It was a total disgrace compared to the invitations I've made for others! Then to top things off, I get to the room, EVERYONE is eating and I don't even get a SURPRISE!!! EVERYONE eat before ME?!!! I didn't even sit with my friends and only got THREE pieces of shrimps!!! To top things off, these 'friends' added on the invitation that the money they collected was for food and a 'gift' If they collected $300 from everyone, that means they should've spent less on food and given me more of a faculty gift....I got a $100 gift certificate from 25 people at work!!!!!! Of the 50 people I work with I would say there are only 3 people I don't quite get along with....That means that I should've had at least 45 ppl contribute something more than $100 worth! One of my co-workers called me today and apologized to me because they too recognized that it was poorly organized and not dignified for me, a person whom has done so much for the school! I do appreciate the thought but if they were going to do something, they should've done something right, not half-assed. And I do believe I'm worth more than $100! W T F can I buy w/ that off my registry?!!!!
I FEEL YOUR PAIN...I LIKE YOU PLAN AND COLLECT MS. SOCIAL BUTTERFLY AND DONT EVEN THINK MY DEPARTMENT IS GOING TO GIVE ME A SHOWER. THEY ARE OFF THE CHAIN AND SINCE I KNOW MY BOSS DOESNT EVEN GIVE HER STAFF GIFTS ON THEIR SPECIAL PROFESSIONALS DAY....HEY I BETTER NOT EVEN HOLD MY BREATH........I DONT DO THINGS TO GET THINGS BACK IN RETURN, I DO THEM BECAUSE I WANT TO.....BUT THEIR IS A PART OF ME THAT YURNS FOR THAT SAME FEELING IN RETURN......BUT WHAT CAN YOU DO?????? DO LESS FOR THE NEXT TIME....YES THE THOUGHT IS GOOD BUT THE PLANNING WAS F'ED UP AND HEY YOU YOURSELF COULD HAVE DONE A BETTER JOB.
BUT WHATEVER DONT BE MADE LET IT GO AND MONDAY IS ANOTHER DAY...
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I would just be happy that they tried to do something nice, isn't that what it's all about.
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You should be happy that they chose to honor you at all. By complaining so much, you sound very spoiled and ungrateful. You're lucky you got anything at all! It's one thing to expect your friends/family to go out of their way to celebrate for you, but coworkers are different. Unless you see every one of those 50 people socially outside of work, you really have no business expecting them to throw you a shower on the same level as one your MOH would throw for you. No matter what you've done for them in the past. Your wedding is the center of your life- not theirs!
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Posted by medic6809
I can understand where you are coming from totally, but the last comment you made struck me wrong. I do understand LI is way diffrent than MI, but I have to believe $100 could buy dinner or be put twords a gift. I would also be hurt if a party for me was sloppy and showed no emotion, but the money and gift should never factor into it.
This is my sentiments exactly. Along with many of the other posts. I think the way you worded this post just sounds like youre just so offended that they didnt SPEND enough on you. I would never even expect a workplace to throw a shower bc...they dont have to. The fact that they did does tell you something, that they cared enough to do it.
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I'm so sorry your upset, but compared to the parties we get at work, it sounded like a nice function. We send out a mass email...have platters of cookies, maybe a bottle or 2 of champagne--enough so everyone can do a toast and then it's back to work. So don't take it too hard...
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This to shall pass and I hope you move past this and remember the bigger picture.
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No one is obligated to do anything for you. Smile and say thank you. If this is the way you plan to go through life, you will undoubtedly be disappointed time and time again, and will ultimately be a miserable person. Try to think about what's important here; it's not about the shrimp.
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I'm sorry that your work shower was disappointing, and I have to say, I'm glad that you posted this...I know that you are appreciative of the thought, but it totally SUC kS when you are always going out of your way to do things perfectly, and when it is your turn to be appreciated, you get a tenth of the effort. it is not fair, and I know that some may see this as being selfish or un-appreciatative, but it STINKS! Especially when one of your co workers even had to apologize to you about it! Ugh!
