Important Wedding Issue...

trojo1521 Posted: Feb 15, 2008 05:21 PM

Important Wedding Issue...

So FH just calls and says that his friend, who was minister and was going to marry us, just called to say that since he is not active in a church anymore, he can not legally marry us. He can preform the ceremony, but we will have to have someone else make it legal.

This *****!!! And I don't know know what to do...

I can't tell him to forget it and we'll find someone else, that would hurt is feelings. But where do I find someone to make is legal? Are their Justice of the Peace in New York?
Should we make it legal the day before?

Another headache I don't need

TrueLoveIn2008 Posted: Feb 15, 2008 05:23 PM

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Sorry ....

I think someone one here posted something like this in their review recently. I think you can have a justice of the peace come to your ceremony and just watch, sort of, and sign the marriage license.

Or -- he can get ordained online from another group and still marry you???

chrispar Posted: Feb 15, 2008 05:50 PM

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Can you book an officiant and have them both do it?

madseason Posted: Feb 15, 2008 05:52 PM

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Posted by chrispar

Can you book an officiant and have them both do it?

thats a really good idea!!! Can you book another officiant and then all meet together to customize a plan and then tillbe legal!

Great post christine!

DGoldfarb0776 Posted: Feb 15, 2008 05:53 PM

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Posted by JBoothIn2008

Sorry ....

I think someone one here posted something like this in their review recently. I think you can have a justice of the peace come to your ceremony and just watch, sort of, and sign the marriage license.

Or -- he can get ordained online from another group and still marry you???

You can get married the day before at the town clerks office- we went to the town of Hempstead just to get our license the other day and saw folks getting married there.. then you can have the 'ceremony' and it would still be legal and all since you were married the day before by a justice of the peace.

I know there is a fee for this and that you have to make an appointment.

Or you can ask your FH's friend to get ordained online- that shouldn't take too long for him to do.

Mici n KC Posted: Feb 15, 2008 05:55 PM

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I think you can get a judge to marry you.

chrispar Posted: Feb 15, 2008 06:02 PM

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Posted by madseason

Posted by chrispar

Can you book an officiant and have them both do it?

thats a really good idea!!! Can you book another officiant and then all meet together to customize a plan and then tillbe legal!

Great post christine!

Thanks! It seems like it can be done right

trojo1521 Posted: Feb 15, 2008 06:26 PM

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Thanks so much for the advice...

This was just the last thing I wanted to be worrying about with 2 months left.

trojo1521 Posted: Feb 15, 2008 06:30 PM

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Posted by Mici n KC

I think you can get a judge to marry you.

I just don't know any judges to do it...

LnF0405 Posted: Feb 15, 2008 06:41 PM

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I think you can go to the town where you are getting married and ask for a officiant to go and make it legal on the day of... They charge like 75 to go somewhere (I think) HTH

trojo1521 Posted: Feb 15, 2008 06:48 PM

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Posted by LnF0405

I think you can go to the town where you are getting married and ask for a officiant to go and make it legal on the day of... They charge like 75 to go somewhere (I think) HTH

That is an excellent idea! $75 would be perfect!

Sunset Renee Posted: Feb 19, 2008 12:41 PM

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Umm...is there a good reason why he is not affiliated with the church anymore? I might ask that question before I made any decisions on where to go from here - If it is not a very good reason, I might not feel so bad telling him that you have to get someone else to do it.

lela9282008 Posted: Feb 19, 2008 12:45 PM

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oh that *****, dont worry everyting happens for a reason and everything will work out fine

trojo1521 Posted: Feb 19, 2008 01:41 PM

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Posted by Sunset Renee

Umm...is there a good reason why he is not affiliated with the church anymore? I might ask that question before I made any decisions on where to go from here - If it is not a very good reason, I might not feel so bad telling him that you have to get someone else to do it.

It isn't for a bad reason. He left the church to start a teen outreach center with his wife. They help 'troubled' teens and their parents.

kimandvin Posted: Feb 19, 2008 04:46 PM

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why cant you ust tell him to forget it.. he told you that he is not active anymore and cannot perform it.. I would look up an officiant and maybe have him be the one thta signs the marriage license so he is till a part of your special day.. Im sure he will understand

Teamhurldon Posted: Feb 19, 2008 04:51 PM

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be careful about online ordination this was the route we were gonna go and our lawyer advised against it because nystate wording on marriage laws is tricky and they have been overturned in the past... nyc much easier than nystate... but long island considered nystate... poo.

Papillon25 Posted: Feb 19, 2008 05:13 PM

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we are using nymarriages - Keith Gugliuzza as our officiant.

Either you use your person and get it legalized at the court house or book another officiant.

Maybe you can encorporate him into the service - i.e. he does the monologue and runs the ceremony the officiant just does whatever part he has to do to make it legal? This could be as little as signing the document?