IN LAW PROBLEMS

I need to know...

Am I the only one???

Prior to our engagement I met ym FH's Brother 2 times and his brother's wife 1 time. His Brother helped us move into our apartment.

FH and I got engaged May 2005. In Oct 2005 we received a call from FBIL(C) that there are some problems with me and that I made FSIL(M) fell uncomfortable in their home (we were there in May and FSIL was in bed sick most of the time.) And she was upset that she wasn't even asked to be in the wedding party. ( I MET HER ONCE) She claimed that she had us sleep in separate beds, because they didn't know how serious we were, they figured I was just another girl FH brought home... She met one of my FH's girlfriends and that was it. I mean come one FBIL helped us move into our apartment in January (5 months earlier). We settled it...

In Dec 2005 we went back to FL for an early Christmas with my FSIL (J), FBIL(V), our nephew(P) and FMIL.. They all stayed with FBIL and FSIL and their girls, but we couldn't bring our selves to do it. Well we had an enjoyable early Christmas. FH and I sat down with FSIL(M) and told her who was in the wedding and that our nephew(P) was the ringbearer and my cousins were the flower girl. We told her that we would like to have her and the girls involved and we would like for them to hand the programs out and the flowers that will be thrown... her response was 'well we will have to see the girls are shy and I don't even know if we are coming.'

Now in July 2006 after FSIL(M) spoke to FMIL and found out that nephew(p), who is also FH's god son is the ring bearer, FSIL(M) gets all upset that neice(M) isn't the flowergirl and since she is FH's god daughter she should be the flowergirl, not my cousin.... Are you kidding me...

You haven't even told me if you were coming to my wedding yet... ARE YOU KIDDING

Well I just found out from FH last night that FSIL(M) won't be attending my bridal shower for two reasons, 1 - it is to close to my wedding and it will cost to much (FMIL had an extra ticket from last year that she never used and was giving to FSIL(M)

2 - she wasnt asked to be in the wedding, so why should she go.

Hello are we 16 yrs old...

GIVE ME A BREAK

You are not the only one!!! I am used to all the drama.. I just choose not to be a part of it. Good luck! FM me if you need to talk.. I can RELATE!

Come on! What is she 5 years old? We don't have any problems with FILs, but I'm sorry you do. It's better off her not attending the shower. I wouldn't want a negative person there anyway. She sounds like a child, and if I were you I wouldn't let her get to me.

You are NOT the only one...

FSIL is barely speaking to FI and not to me at all...she puled her son out of the wedding..said she is not coming and now maybe with out FBIL or the kids.over a self created drama...

FMIL is a story on it;s own but the most recent is that I ignored her at my shower..you know spending time with the other 30 people there...

so annoying....just keeo your head up and try not to let it create drama with your FI

Wow, she sounds like a real gem! Feel Better! She isn't worth the added stress!

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Posted by snydl40

Come on! What is she 5 years old? We don't have any problems with FILs, but I'm sorry you do. It's better off her not attending the shower. I wouldn't want a negative person there anyway. She sounds like a child, and if I were you I wouldn't let her get to me.

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I don't want her at the wedding....

I forgot to tell you girls...

MY FG and BMS are wearing dresses that are white on top and purple on the bottom. We forwarded them a pic of a dress that is a similar style, but the same colors( so they can maybe get the girls dresses that match) . . FBIL called FH to give him the measurements for the Tuexdo's and FH heard FSIL in the back ground saying ' This is going to be to confusing, where am I suppossed to find dresses like this... Why can't the girls just wear white dresses'

I hear FH saying Maria is the only one wearing white... and FH made sure he heard FBIL tell FSIL the same thing...

I told FH she is going to show up with those girls in white dresses and I will be pissed.

he said they are getting dressed at FMIL and so is he, so he won;t let them leave the house if they are wearing white...

if I wanted other people to wear white, my FG would be wearing white

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Posted by Mandyin2007

Wow, she sounds like a real gem! Feel Better! She isn't worth the added stress!

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you don't know the half of it

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Posted by tracy2246

You are NOT the only one...

FSIL is barely speaking to FI and not to me at all...she puled her son out of the wedding..said she is not coming and now maybe with out FBIL or the kids.over a self created drama...

FMIL is a story on it;s own but the most recent is that I ignored her at my shower..you know spending time with the other 30 people there...

so annoying....just keeo your head up and try not to let it create drama with your FI

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My mom told FH to tell FSIL to let us have an enjoyable wedding and stay home for the wedding

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Posted by tracy2246

Isn't it amazing how people make the one day that is really about you and FI about them...just annoys me..

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Well that is going to be my next remark to them, cause this is not about them at all..

And I know this is not over...

i can't wait to send the B.... pics of me and FMIL and FSIL(J) from the shower... Not to mention pics of me and the rest of FH's family...

She has started with everyone in Fh's family including FMIL...

FBIL(C) and FMIL didn't speak for a year b/c of FSIL(M) and FMIL got into a fight over the diapers FMIL bought...

She is nuts...

Unfortunately, you are not the only one. All I can offer is a lot of

Some people are just nasty and have no sense. Hang in there.

YOU ARE NOT THE ONLY ONE.

I GOT MARRIED TWO WEEKS AGO. my MIL did not even say hello to me at our rehearsal dinner (which WE paid for). She didn't say good bye or even acknowledge me there! She didn't say hello to me at our wedding or congratulate me when we got married. She was in my bridal suite when we got back from the ceremony and walked right by me without congratulating me! She Would not come into the RH when they announced us for the first time AND she missed our first dance COMPLETELY. Then she got ridiculously drunk at the wedding and made a complete fool of herself. How is that??? LOL

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Posted by LisaJill

YOU ARE NOT THE ONLY ONE.

I GOT MARRIED TWO WEEKS AGO. my MIL did not even say hello to me at our rehearsal dinner (which WE paid for). She didn't say good bye or even acknowledge me there! She didn't say hello to me at our wedding or congratulate me when we got married. She was in my bridal suite when we got back from the ceremony and walked right by me without congratulating me! She Would not come into the RH when they announced us for the first time AND she missed our first dance COMPLETELY. Then she got ridiculously drunk at the wedding and made a complete fool of herself. How is that??? LOL

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I am so sorry to hear this..

Definetly not the only one. Welcome to the land of in laws. I'd go into mine just to show you but the last time I posted about it BIL's wife found a post card with my username and went on to LIW to spy and printed everything out and gave it to my MIL. So things have never been the same. Good luck and just be prepared because things dont get better but worse sometimes.

Wow, that really s**ks. What does your FBIL say about all this? But my question is, why don't you have 2 flower girls? Is it because you dont like your FSIL(who really does sound like a BIT**)? You really should not hve to be dealing with this, but maybe you should have your future neice as another FG, for two reasons.... 1, she will be your neice, and its not her fault the drama is going on, and 2, this way you look like the good guy and your FSIL will look mean. Is this your FH sister, or your FH SIL? People are crazy. Don't worry, you may even be better off if they don't come.

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Posted by MyDay627

Definetly not the only one. Welcome to the land of in laws. I'd go into mine just to show you but the last time I posted about it BIL's wife found a post card with my username and went on to LIW to spy and printed everything out and gave it to my MIL. So things have never been the same. Good luck and just be prepared because things dont get better but worse sometimes.

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OMG- WHAT A BIT*H-

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Posted by LisaJill

YOU ARE NOT THE ONLY ONE.

I GOT MARRIED TWO WEEKS AGO. my MIL did not even say hello to me at our rehearsal dinner (which WE paid for). She didn't say good bye or even acknowledge me there! She didn't say hello to me at our wedding or congratulate me when we got married. She was in my bridal suite when we got back from the ceremony and walked right by me without congratulating me! She Would not come into the RH when they announced us for the first time AND she missed our first dance COMPLETELY. Then she got ridiculously drunk at the wedding and made a complete fool of herself. How is that??? LOL

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YES-WELL LOOK AT IT THIS -WHO LOOKED LIKE THE AS* IN THESE PITCURES???

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Posted by JennJay

Wow, that really s**ks. What does your FBIL say about all this? But my question is, why don't you have 2 flower girls? Is it because you dont like your FSIL(who really does sound like a BIT**)? You really should not hve to be dealing with this, but maybe you should have your future neice as another FG, for two reasons.... 1, she will be your neice, and its not her fault the drama is going on, and 2, this way you look like the good guy and your FSIL will look mean. Is this your FH sister, or your FH SIL? People are crazy. Don't worry, you may even be better off if they don't come.

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This is my FH's FSIL

But they have two girls.. Then the little one is left out.

They don't know how to say no to their children.

My FG is my baby cousin, who from the day she was born I knew was going to be my FG. We share a B-day. She is my baby. I only want one FG cause she is walking in right before me and throwing the rose pedals...

Beside this was discussed a yr ago with FSIL and nothing was said until 3 mths before the wedding. If you had a problem with it you should have said it then.

One thing though FMIL is awesome. She is supporting what ever FH and I want