This was the situation for my SIL-- we were going to a wedding in Mass and knew no one who could babysit--so I found a friend who babysat in the hotel for my niece. Look into finding a babysitter-- someone you know well so that they feel comfortable with leaving the baby and are still able to enjoy your wedding Laura
Leave this topic alone. It is in everyone's best interest if we continue our planning and discussing wedding topics than using this board as a gripe session.