Inlaw and names

Eireann Posted: Jul 23, 2003 11:59 AM

Inlaw and names

What will everyone be calling their new inlaws once you are married? I currently call them Mr and Mrs C*******...but I don't think that's going to work once I'm Mrs. C*******!!! I don't know if I'm comfortable calling them Mom and Dad either since I kind of feel that I have only one Mom and Dad. My fiance is having the same issue so I told him I'd ask the board! What do you think?

Nikki10-12-03 Posted: Jul 23, 2003 12:06 PM

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I understand what you mean, my FMIL came up to me a couple of months ago and told me for now on to call them mom & dad. I still have not done it, I cant get myself to say it. I thought it was very sweet of her to make that gesture it is just VERY difficult to get those words out

Jordan Posted: Jul 23, 2003 12:06 PM

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I currently call my FILs by their first names...I assume I will continue to call them by their first names. As for sending cards, they are addressed as 'Mom & Dad' b/c the card is from FH as well...

smooch Posted: Jul 23, 2003 12:06 PM

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Did you ask them what they want to be called? My parents told FH he can call them by their first name. They'd be very happy with Mom and Dad too. My FIL's refer to themselves as Mr. and Mrs. to me, so that's what I will call them.

swags1016 Posted: Jul 23, 2003 12:07 PM

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Um I have a couple names for his mother

I call them by their first names as he does mine!

tracyg Posted: Jul 23, 2003 12:08 PM

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Hi Erin... i just realized that its you

Its funny, i don't call them anything. I call his dad by his first name since i knew him before i knew FI. But i don't call his mom anything... i jokingly use MOM sometimes. If i do address her its by her first name.

pschica Posted: Jul 23, 2003 12:11 PM

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i am in the same predicament!

Julybaby Posted: Jul 23, 2003 12:13 PM

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I still call them by their first names.

Jess2 Posted: Jul 23, 2003 12:16 PM

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I've posted this a few times, but they asked me to call them mom & dad and I said no. I just didn't feel right, although it was very nice of them. I call them by their first names instead. Why should I spend the rest of my life not calling them anything? That was my thinking.

xjulietx Posted: Jul 23, 2003 12:32 PM

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FH's family made it easy for me. He is from Poland, thus he calls him parents Mama and Tata. Since it means Mom and Dad but it isn't actually Mom and Dad, FH and I will call his parents Mama and Tata and mine Mom and Dad . No awkwardness or weird feelings from our parents and no disrespect to each other's parents.

daisybride Posted: Jul 23, 2003 12:36 PM

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I think it depends on the day with what i call them. I think I call them Mr. and Mrs. B******, but she refers to herself as Mom B******. I personally find this kind of annoying even though I know she is just trying to be nice. My FH doesn't call my parents anything, but he refers to them as Mom and Dad

KerrC Posted: Jul 23, 2003 01:55 PM

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When I first met my inlaws...I called them Mr. & Mrs....but they yelled at me and told me to call them by their first names. My parents on the other hand still insist that FI call them Mr. & Mrs.

aliciahelene Posted: Jul 23, 2003 04:23 PM

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My fmil always tells me not to call her MRS> but its habit..she told me to come up with a nickname for her..but I havent yet.

prncssrachel Posted: Jul 23, 2003 04:38 PM

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My mother and father have always had my friends and etc call them mom and dad, so that's what JT calls them, as for his parents, I prefer CRAZY LADY and CRAZY LADY'S HUSBAND! Haha, JUST KIDDING! (or am I?) But they refer to themselves to me by their first names.

Maribelle7777 Posted: Jul 23, 2003 04:44 PM

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call them by their first names. you're an adult now, too!

that is if they say it's OK. if they are nice, I don't see why they wouldn't mind.

I'm calling my in-laws by their first names. But I always have. That is how I was introduced to them.

macsept03 Posted: Jul 23, 2003 04:47 PM

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I agree with swags, I could definately come up with a few names for my FMIL, but right now I just call them by their first names and will continue to do so after we are married. My FH doesn't really call my mom anything. He always just says your mom, it's weird.

white-wolf Posted: Jul 23, 2003 04:50 PM

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I usually never called them anything, but if addressing them correctly I would use Mr. & Mrs. They told me to call them by their first names about a year ago, but I felt awkward, so I continued to use Mr. & Mrs. or nothing at all. It wasnt until recently when I just started using their first names. They also told me to call them mom and dad when I felt comfortable, but I dont think I can. It feels too weird for me. FH doesnt address my parents as Mr. and Mrs. or anything at all... Just doesnt use anything.
Growing up, I can never recall calling any of my parents friends Mr. & Mrs. it was always by their first names. I would only use it in situations with people I really didnt know very well.

maysie18 Posted: Jul 23, 2003 07:11 PM

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When I have had to address FMIL by name I call her Mrs. ____. I'll never call her Mom cuz that's reserved for my own mother & nobody can ever compare. If she ever tells me to call her by her first name I will.

palebride Posted: Jul 23, 2003 07:15 PM

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i have no idea what to do either...i worked with FFIL before Fh and I started dating - so I call him by his first name - and i met FMIL before we started dating and was first introduced to her as her first name. But he calls my parents Mr. & Mrs. so i think it's rude for me to call them by their first names if he calls my parents something different.
And then, they got me a card the othe day to congratulate me on a new job - and they signed it Mom & Dad with their last name.....!
so do i call them mom and dad, mr. & mrs. or first names?
i am so thoroughly confused.

when my father asked my grandfather what he should call him when my parents got married - my grandfather said 'Sir', so that's what my dad has called him ever since!