Insight on Venues?

Hi Ladies!
I'm not that active on these boards but I'm a real bride! Check out my profile info, I have a wedding blog...real bride!

Anyway, we've been engaged since Valentines of this year and have been searching nonstop for venues since. We don't currently live in the city so do not have the luxury of going when we please to look at venues. Thus far we have been back twice and visited four venues both to utter disappointment.
I've been researching online and contacting venues non stop for the past 9 months. I probably have quotes from 4 dozen or more venues. No Joke.

We are coming back next week for thanksgiving and have set 3 appointments to visit venues. And 3-4 we will be doing drivebys basically to offer us more flexibility in timing.

The three we are visiting are Galapagos Art Space in DUMBO, Orchard Hills at Old Westbury Gardens (yes they host weddings now! ) and Vanderbilit at Dowling.
Drivebys include Inn at New Hyde Park, Milleridge Inn (looking at the cottage) and Glen Cove Mansion.

Any insight to food, coordinators, experiences with hosting or being to events at the locations are greatly appreciated.

We are looking for a venue that can host ceremony & reception for roughly 120 guests and have grounds for pictures as well. Any suggestions are also welcomed! If we don't find something this trip back I'm seriously about to reconsider the whole big wedding.

Thanks ever so much!