Interfaith Ceremonies - what are considered MUST haves?
JanuaryBride06
Posted:
Member since
Interfaith Ceremonies - what are considered MUST haves?
We are pretty settled on our ceremony format and we're happy with it - but I was wondering what is necessary to have because I'm catholic and FH is jewish.
We aren't doing a chuppah, just a very simple arch; we are using his cup from his bar mitzvah for the wine ceremony; we are getting a light bulb for the glass breaking (rabbi's suggestion)...
Beyond that, am I missing anything?? Please let me know!
Thanks!!!
evnme
Posted:
Member since
Re: Interfaith Ceremonies - what are considered MUST haves?
you will also need to think about which elements from both religions you want to incorporate into the ceremony. ie- the sheva brachot (the 7 wedding blessings), etc. another thing to think about, since it exists now-- is an interfaith ketubah (jewish wedding contract).... there are a few other things that are optional to incorporate, like the sephardic tradition of the bride and groom being wrapped in tallit.
your rabbi should be able to guide you as to what he/she thinks is appropriate in an interfaith wedding.
HTH
JanuaryBride06
Posted:
Member since
Re: Interfaith Ceremonies - what are considered MUST haves?
As I said, we're settled on the ceremony so I'm not concerned about that; I'm anti-religion, he's not very religious, we're only doing this to keep our parents quiet.
I meant more along the lines of items; i.e. cup, light bulb. We're trying to blend, not concentrate just on the jewish or catholic side (and I've got the catholic side down).
Thanks.
ETA - I could ask his family, but I'd prefer to limit my contact with them and ask the interfaith experts on here. Thanks again ladies.
BKtoLI
Posted:
Member since
Re: Interfaith Ceremonies - what are considered MUST haves?
My officiant informed me that the unity candle is something that has been used on both sides, so we are using that.
evnme
Posted:
Member since
Re: Interfaith Ceremonies - what are considered MUST haves?
well, you've got 2 important elements, the kiddush cup and the breaking of the 'light bulb' so i think u're set on that end of it.
Goldi1021
Posted:
Member since
Re: Interfaith Ceremonies - what are considered MUST haves?
You may wish to have a HORA at your reception. A lot of brides are scared at the thought of being lifted on a chair but the historical rationale behind it (being a king and a queen above all others on your wedding day) is quite nice! I waited a long time to be lifted and I am GOING UP! This is also the only way I will accept FH's association with football. Many of his friends play and are built like houses. They wont drop me OR him!
weddingbunny
Posted:
Member since
Re: Interfaith Ceremonies - what are considered MUST haves?
Saying Kiddish over the wine and motzi (spelling?) over the bread is probably pretty standard with a Jewish wedding... and I think saying grace is probably standard with Catholics... so that might be something to think about.
just out of curiousity... why a lightbulb? I'm pretty sure it's supposed to be a wineglass...
Goldi1021
Posted:
Member since
Re: Interfaith Ceremonies - what are considered MUST haves?
Posted by weddingbunny
Saying Kiddish over the wine and motzi (spelling?) over the bread is probably pretty standard with a Jewish wedding... and I think saying grace is probably standard with Catholics... so that might be something to think about.
just out of curiousity... why a lightbulb? I'm pretty sure it's supposed to be a wineglass...
Lightbulbs are made from lighter glass and make a better 'popping' sound when you step on it. They also make glasses SPECIFICALLY for this that do the same thing and people often keep the glass to put in a mezzuzah or even suspended in a cube of resin.
weddingbunny
Posted:
Member since
Re: Interfaith Ceremonies - what are considered MUST haves?
Posted by Goldi1021
Posted by weddingbunny
Saying Kiddish over the wine and motzi (spelling?) over the bread is probably pretty standard with a Jewish wedding... and I think saying grace is probably standard with Catholics... so that might be something to think about.
just out of curiousity... why a lightbulb? I'm pretty sure it's supposed to be a wineglass...
Lightbulbs are made from lighter glass and make a better 'popping' sound when you step on it. They also make glasses SPECIFICALLY for this that do the same thing and people often keep the glass to put in a mezzuzah or even suspended in a cube of resin.
huh. I've never heard that before. Learn something new every day.
MrsP2Be
Posted:
Member since
Re: Interfaith Ceremonies - what are considered MUST haves?
Posted by Goldi1021
people often keep the glass to put in a mezzuzah or even suspended in a cube of resin.
FSIL's engagement gift to us is our glass in the cube!
MissMelissa
Posted:
Member since
Re: Interfaith Ceremonies - what are considered MUST haves?
we did the breaking of the glass for me and candle ceremony for him
Mrs. dleeny
Posted:
Member since
Re: Interfaith Ceremonies - what are considered MUST haves?
we are an interfaith couple, but our officiant was a Rabbi. my DH (who is Catholic) chose a 'Jewish style' ceremony. so there was a blessing with wine and he stepped on the glass at the end.
beyond what you mentioned you are doing, I don't think you're missing anything.
ceremonies today can be customized, it's a very modern concept. we were very surprised to learn all the different things we could have done. it was awesome to have a choice!
TheFutureMrsM
Posted:
Member since
Re: Interfaith Ceremonies - what are considered MUST haves?
how come the guy gets to break the glass?? IS there anything that says the man has to do this? Is it possible for bride to break a glass also...maybe at the same time as the groom? I think it should be even. Dont both the bride and groom drink wine from the cup? Let me know what you think of this
Goldi1021
Posted:
Member since
Re: Interfaith Ceremonies - what are considered MUST haves?
I have no idea why but maybe it is because they are generally heavier than brides and can make the pop more dramatic
It could be because dresses are cumbersome.
JanuaryBride06
Posted:
Member since
Re: Interfaith Ceremonies - what are considered MUST haves?
Just concerned about the ceremony items - we are set on our reception. As I've said, a true blend is the goal.
