Invitation wording EMERGENCY

fallwed03 Posted: Jul 23, 2003 03:47 PM

Invitation wording EMERGENCY

I am trying to order my invitations how do I word it -

My mom is single and is paying for some of the wedding

His mom is single and is not giving us any money but we would like to put her name on the invites
like

(my mom) requests the presence......

of her daughter

(my Name)

to

FH Name
son of

(his MOM)

DO i put Ms?

Do I put there middle name?

Me and my mom have the same exact name....please help

Lunatrek Posted: Jul 23, 2003 03:53 PM

Re: Invitation wording EMERGENCY

I think you need to go by who is paying for the wedding. My mom gave us money, but not totalling more than half of the cost of our wedding, so I didn't put her name on the invites.

If you want to, you can say:

' Jane Smith, daughter of Mary Smith, and Bob Jones, son of Lucy & Harry Jones, request your presence at.... etc. etc.'

Otherwise it will look like your mom is footing the bill, IMO.

ETA: If you have the same name, you could say 'Miss Jane Smith, daughter of Mrs. Jane Smith...' ??

dino1109 Posted: Jul 23, 2003 03:54 PM

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Yes, I would would it exactly like you have and put Ms. for each and just put you Mom's middle initial and then you middle name (or if you don't like it just put your initial also). his mom's name doesnt need a middle initial. And the way it is worded doesnt sound snobby or whatever that his mom didnt give any $ bu slightly and politly gives people a clue that your mom did

hopethat helps!

kelly6273 Posted: Jul 23, 2003 03:55 PM

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I would ask them each about the whole MS/MRS thing. Some go by one, some the other. It's a personal choice more than what's appropriate in my opinion. I don't think middle names are necessary. Maybe a middle initial.

emacsgirl Posted: Jul 23, 2003 03:55 PM

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We decided to acknowledge our parent's without using their names -

We did this:

Because you have shared in our lives by your friendship and love, we

Jennifer and Eric

Together with our parents
Invite you to share the beginning of our new life together when we exchange marriage vows on ....

Maybe that will please everyone.

butterfly20 Posted: Jul 23, 2003 04:04 PM

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i personally like the 'together with their parents'

septbride Posted: Jul 23, 2003 04:18 PM

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I used a quote in the beginning of my invitation but here it is what I used but I changed it to fit your situation. If you and your mom share the same last name you don't have to put your last name.

Their marriage will be nurtured by
the courage of their ancestors
the strength of their faith
and the love of their families.....

Ms. Jane Sally Doe
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of her daughter

Jane Sally (I used my first name and middle name, no last name)

to

Your fiance full name

son of

Ms. fiance mom's name

on Saturday, the twentieth of September
Two thousand and three
at quarter past eleven in the morning

XXX Church
Town, New York

Also try verseit.com, it was a great help for me. Good luck and I hope this helps.

2003fallwedding Posted: Jul 23, 2003 04:26 PM

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I did 'together with their parents' my parents are divorced and both remarried..

smooch Posted: Jul 23, 2003 04:45 PM

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As for Ms/Mrs, you don't HAVE to put either. On our invites, we had:

John and Mary Smith invite you to share in the joy of uniting their daughter
Roxanne to
Billy Bob Jimmy....

(made the names up, in case you were wondering)

Mouse Posted: Jul 23, 2003 04:55 PM

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You should always put all parents' names, whether they're paying or not. I think its kind of mean otherwise.

palebride Posted: Jul 23, 2003 04:59 PM

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we put both set of parents names (mine first) even though only my parents ar giving us money toward the wedding. i just felt it was nicer that way and really highlights the part they played in our lives.
as for the Ms. Miss, Mrs. thing - I'd suggest asing them what they prefer - so as not to offend them. And if you and your mom have the same name - that might be a good way to differentiate you from her. or a middle name might do the same.
good luck!
don't panic!