Invitation wording situation

I am about to start with my invitations, and I don't know how to word them. My parents are paying for almost the whole wedding. FFIL and his wife are paying for half of the RD, and FMIL and her husband are paying for the other half. As far as that is concerned, we will thank them by toasting them at the dinner, and we will probably send RD invitations worded to reflect that they are paying. The issue is that FMIL and her husband also paid for our DJ. We didn't ask them to do this, they just offered one day, and I feel like we should acknowledge that somehow. It doesn't seem right to word the invitations as though my parents and FMIL are both hosting the wedding, because my parents are paying like 35x what the DJ cost.

Any suggestions? I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, and I would like to acknowledge FMIL's generosity...

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Posted by twein28

we just made it easy by saying 'Together with their parents'...nice and simple

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ITA, keep it general on the invitation and during the ceremony, just give a special thank you speech to each individual to make them feel special.

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Posted by Anmarie39

I think that would imply that they both split the cost of the wedding, and I don't think that is really fair to my parents, who paid like $35k. FMIL is putting in $1200.

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saying thanks is to be respectful. but you can also get the parents separate thank you gifts and just spend a little more on the parents that contributed more.

i honestly think you should try to keep it as general as possible.

i understand that you feel that your parents deserve more b/c they paid more, but just by wording alone, you can possibly cause a rift, so i think it's best for all parties involved to just keep it general and thank individually.

If you want to include your fiance's parents on the invites without making it sound as if they paid for the wedding you could put:

Mr. and Mrs. John L. Smith
Request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Jane Ann
to
Edward Steve Jones
son of
Mr. and Mrs. Mark Franklin Jones

Hope that helps.

We have the same problem going on right now.. My parents are divorced but split the cost of the RH.. FH's parents are probably just paying RD... I wanted to only put my parents but we decided to put 'together with our parents' because it implies my step-parents as well..

We def are going to make a speech to show our gratitude! HTH!

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Posted by staceycgreen

If you want to include your fiance's parents on the invites without making it sound as if they paid for the wedding you could put:

Mr. and Mrs. John L. Smith
Request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Jane Ann
to
Edward Steve Jones
son of
Mr. and Mrs. Mark Franklin Jones

Hope that helps.

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this is what we did

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Posted by staceycgreen

If you want to include your fiance's parents on the invites without making it sound as if they paid for the wedding you could put:

Mr. and Mrs. John L. Smith
Request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Jane Ann
to
Edward Steve Jones
son of
Mr. and Mrs. Mark Franklin Jones

Hope that helps.

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I agree with this...It is what we did to make sure everyone was a acknowledged.

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Posted by staceycgreen

If you want to include your fiance's parents on the invites without making it sound as if they paid for the wedding you could put:

Mr. and Mrs. John L. Smith
Request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Jane Ann
to
Edward Steve Jones
son of
Mr. and Mrs. Mark Franklin Jones

Hope that helps.

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I agree with this wording, its perfect!

I understand, if my parents were paying I would 100% want them to be acknowledged in the invite

My parents are paying for the wedding, and FH's parents are paying for the RD and HM. Our invite says:

Mr. Donald S and Ms. Linda S
together with
Mr. and Mrs. Michael S............................

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Posted by staceycgreen

If you want to include your fiance's parents on the invites without making it sound as if they paid for the wedding you could put:

Mr. and Mrs. John L. Smith
Request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Jane Ann
to
Edward Steve Jones
son of
Mr. and Mrs. Mark Franklin Jones

Hope that helps.

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I was just talking about this the other day..I don't think his parents are paying for anything at all..but I feel bad not to include them so this was the same idea I had

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Posted by staceycgreen

If you want to include your fiance's parents on the invites without making it sound as if they paid for the wedding you could put:

Mr. and Mrs. John L. Smith
Request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Jane Ann
to
Edward Steve Jones
son of
Mr. and Mrs. Mark Franklin Jones

Hope that helps.

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I love this!!!!! I actually just made a general invitation though with no names so that no one gets insulted and we will get them both a gift to let them know that we apprciate what they have done for us.