invitations

Ser29 Posted: Oct 12, 2006 10:48 PM

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my invitations just came in the mail tonight ... I am sooo excited. my only wish is that I could share this happiness with my mother who is still not talking to me after 2 weeks because I put for the responses to come to me and FH instead of her. i can't even call her and tell her .. she doenst want to talk to me .. oh well yey for me i guess

billandme Posted: Oct 12, 2006 10:49 PM

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Your mom is mad at you because you are having the response cards sent to your house? Why is she mad at that? Isn't that where they are supposed to be sent?

Ser29 Posted: Oct 12, 2006 10:55 PM

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they are being sent to me and FH who live in our own apartment but have a po box that we also share where we want the responses to go ... she wanted them sent to her because she is paying for the reception and she is the mother of the bride... but FH and I want to open them together and share in the excitment, my mother doesn't understand that and thinks i'm disrepecting her and stabbing her in the back on purpose

chrissyandvin Posted: Oct 12, 2006 10:59 PM

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what???? Oh no.. I am so so sorry that you are going through that! I so understand that you would want to open them yourself. I can't wait for that! I am sure in time she will understand that!

Ser29 Posted: Oct 12, 2006 11:03 PM

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she hasnt talked to me in 2 weeks since i ordered them... they just came tonight and i was excited just seeing them, i cant wait until i find responses .. but i just wish my mom would also talk to me again

miss nee Posted: Oct 12, 2006 11:06 PM

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STILL BE HAPPY ..SAY OH WELL AND LET NO ONE STILL YOUR JOY IM HAPPY FOR U

Ser29 Posted: Oct 12, 2006 11:07 PM

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LOL thanks it was fun seeing FH try to open the package before me because he was just as excited

chrissyandvin Posted: Oct 12, 2006 11:08 PM

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Posted by Ser29

she hasnt talked to me in 2 weeks since i ordered them... they just came tonight and i was excited just seeing them, i cant wait until i find responses .. but i just wish my mom would also talk to me again

have you tried to contact her at all?? Maybe you need to be the better person

Val Posted: Oct 12, 2006 11:09 PM

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I understand and take your side 100%. Maybe you and your mom would enjoy doing the seating arrangement for your side of the fam. It would be tons of help for you and bonding time for mom.

Trishthedish Posted: Oct 12, 2006 11:09 PM

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That's really sad that your mom hasn't spoken to you over this. I am sorry to hear that you are going through this...

I am happy to hear that you got your invitations and are very happy with them.

Congrats.

billandme Posted: Oct 12, 2006 11:10 PM

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Posted by chrissyandvin

Posted by Ser29

she hasnt talked to me in 2 weeks since i ordered them... they just came tonight and i was excited just seeing them, i cant wait until i find responses .. but i just wish my mom would also talk to me again

have you tried to contact her at all?? Maybe you need to be the better person

I would have to agree completey with this :)

Ser29 Posted: Oct 12, 2006 11:20 PM

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i did try .. last thursday i called and went there for dinner and i got there's frozen dinners in the freezer if your hungry and that was that.. i left after an hour because I couldnt take the silence and then when i left she flipped on me saying i dont want to even go to your wedding right now .. i cried the whole way home ... i'm going to try to send her a card i dont know what else to do

Val Posted: Oct 12, 2006 11:48 PM

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I would try calling her with a list of some 'jobs' for her to do. You will make yourself crazy if you do it all alone and if there is tension between you and your mom. Make her feel special by telling her your need her help doing random jobs.

My mom is
-making the seating chart/filliing out place cards
-assembling favor boxes
-organizing vendor papers/contracts

Things I have no desire to do and my mom is loving it. I hope all goes well.

portjeffbride Posted: Oct 12, 2006 11:54 PM

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I truly empathize. My mom can be high maintenance sometimes too....

here's a possible way to diffuse the situation with your mom.... Your invites say 'Mr. and Mrs Smith (your parents) request your presence to celebrate the marriage of their daughter Jane to John, son of Mr. and Mrs. Doe (his parents) .....

According to the authority of everthing.... Martha Stewart weddings, this implies your parents are hosting.... NOT you and fh. Where the RSVPs are sent has nothing to do with who is hosting....

If your invites don't have your parents names on it, that implies you and fh are paying....

For back-up, you can get this info online on any bridal site offering wording for invitations.....

I hope this helps.....

Ser29 Posted: Oct 13, 2006 07:11 AM

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we did word it that way, implying that she is hosting the wedding... i just dont understand why she is getting so mad at it because i have been involving her in just about everything .. i'm sending her a card today and telling my grandparents that my invites are in and going to hope for the best.. thanks for all the support girls

portjeffbride Posted: Oct 13, 2006 10:25 PM

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hopefully this is just a misunderstanding, and once your mom realizes that the RSVP address doesn't mean anything, she will calm down....

good luck....

snydl40 Posted: Oct 13, 2006 10:31 PM

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The RSVPs should be going to you guys.

jennd311 Posted: Oct 13, 2006 10:48 PM

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sorry about the issues with your mom .. try as best you can to not let it bother you

I am sure your invites look beautiful!

JIFFY Posted: Oct 13, 2006 11:53 PM

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Hey date twin!!! Ok, my advice, but I hope I don't offend you... don't send her a card. For what? Did you do something wrong? Not that I can see. She needs to get over it and move on. You already called and stopped by. If my mother was doing that I would tell her to wallow in it and when she was done sulking to call me so we can continue makeing plans.

I'm sorry to vent on your post but it just PI$$ES me off so much when I hear other people, especially parents, are making the brides life miserable. There are more important things in life than a response card. I have a friend who's FMIL is fighting her tooth and nail on everything to the point where I better not ever meet her bc she is gonna get an earfull.

Ok- need to stop now!

I'm so sorry that your mom is doing this to you. You are an adult and she is acting like a child. Stay strong. You did nothing wrong!

sami Posted: Oct 14, 2006 01:27 AM

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wow that is crazy... i half assed lived with my Fh at the time (if that makes any sense) but i did not even think of them comming here to our house i just sent them to her house and she even opened them... i guess if i had seen this post 2 months ago i probally would have had them sent here.. so we could open them together .... oh well good luck to you... you know she is going to come around real soon!