Invite Dilemma
A little situation might be a-brewing, and there's really not a DARN thing I can do about it, so I'm really stuck!
A good friend of mine pulled a no-show for my shower. I was expecting it because she has always been really flaky all throughout the years, like we would make plans and then she would ditch out last minute, not show up, someone else would call with plans and she's go with them instead, etc.
She said after the fact that she was sick, but I kind of don't believe it because the week before she sent a message to my sister saying that she was so sorry but something came up at work and she wouldn't be able to make my shower this weekend. So my sister was like um, but it's not this weekend...it's next weekend. Are you going to be able to come next weekend? We need to know for certain. She said she wrote down the wrong date, but if it was next weekend she'd 'definitely' be there. So we kinda feel like she tried to get out of it once, then got caught, and didn't come. Cried wolf. Maybe she was sick...but I don't 100% buy it because of the little act the week before.
So my mother was pissed, and said don't invite her to the wedding. I can't do that, because I sent her a STD and a shower invite...however I am tempted to let the invite get 'lost in the mail'. My mom said you need to find out from her for certain if she's going to come or not because it's a lot more money you'd be out...but the reality is, I can ask her point blank, and she'll tell me yes definitely absolutely she'll be there till she's blue in the face...until a half hour before the ceremony when she'll text my phone and say she's sick and her and her husband cant come. It's at the point now where her word just isn't good to me.
So I don't know what to do. Just because it's expected behavior from her doesn't mean that it hurt any less...would you still invite them if you were in the same situation?
A good friend of mine pulled a no-show for my shower. I was expecting it because she has always been really flaky all throughout the years, like we would make plans and then she would ditch out last minute, not show up, someone else would call with plans and she's go with them instead, etc.
She said after the fact that she was sick, but I kind of don't believe it because the week before she sent a message to my sister saying that she was so sorry but something came up at work and she wouldn't be able to make my shower this weekend. So my sister was like um, but it's not this weekend...it's next weekend. Are you going to be able to come next weekend? We need to know for certain. She said she wrote down the wrong date, but if it was next weekend she'd 'definitely' be there. So we kinda feel like she tried to get out of it once, then got caught, and didn't come. Cried wolf. Maybe she was sick...but I don't 100% buy it because of the little act the week before.
So my mother was pissed, and said don't invite her to the wedding. I can't do that, because I sent her a STD and a shower invite...however I am tempted to let the invite get 'lost in the mail'. My mom said you need to find out from her for certain if she's going to come or not because it's a lot more money you'd be out...but the reality is, I can ask her point blank, and she'll tell me yes definitely absolutely she'll be there till she's blue in the face...until a half hour before the ceremony when she'll text my phone and say she's sick and her and her husband cant come. It's at the point now where her word just isn't good to me.
So I don't know what to do. Just because it's expected behavior from her doesn't mean that it hurt any less...would you still invite them if you were in the same situation?
