Invite Question..

Ncarlo Posted: Dec 02, 2009 11:22 AM

Invite Question..

Is it bad to not invite someone to your wedding that you had invited to your engagement party a year early?

My fh and I are debating some ppl that we invited to our engagement party back in July. We aren't getting married until next October.. and we haven't seen/spoken to these ppl (they are basically not even our friends any more)...does this look really bad to cut them?

haha ..what are your opinions?

kris_gets_hitched Posted: Dec 02, 2009 11:24 AM

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If the friendships ended poorly, and didn't just fizzle out, then I wouldn't invite them. If everyone's just been too busy to catch up in the past few months, then I think I'd still invite them.

FutureCap Posted: Dec 02, 2009 11:25 AM

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i don't think you should feel obligated to invite anyone! relationships change over time, a year can change alot of things!

LouieDianna2010 Posted: Dec 02, 2009 11:25 AM

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ugh.... im going to have to say yes...if you invite them to the engagement party they should be invited to the wedding UNLESS you guys had a fallling out.

Lsorrent Posted: Dec 02, 2009 11:27 AM

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Well, normally I'd say yes. But I'm actually going to say no because I'm in the same boat.

We (well FH) had a friend....his so-called best friend. He has always in the past screwed FH over, but this time it was royal. Anyhow......FH was going to ask him to be a GM, and he was waiting until our e-party to ask his guys. So e-party comes. Sh!thead friend of course is invited. Party starts at 11. 11:30, still no friend.......12 still no friend....12:30 nope, not there yet.......he finally stumbles in looking like he rolled out of bed at 1:00!!!!!!!! The freaking party ended at 2!!!!!!!!

FH never asked him to be a GM, and no longer speaks to him. He has tried to call FH a few times, and stopped by our house once (when we weren't home) but FH is done with him. He was really upset when dumba$$ friend was so late......FH doesn't have any pics of him and his GM's from our e-party simply because of that guy.

So NO, he will not be invited to the wedding. He did not get an STD, and he will NOT get an invite.

Yankees2323 Posted: Dec 02, 2009 11:28 AM

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Posted by LouieDianna2010

ugh.... im going to have to say yes...if you invite them to the engagement party they should be invited to the wedding UNLESS you guys had a fallling out.

ITA!!! i havent spoke to a few people since our e party last nov 08 and if i dont send them an invite i look bad..

Ncarlo Posted: Dec 02, 2009 11:28 AM

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yeah unfortunately there was no falling out- they just were kinda on the fence to begin with .. and we were like ok invite them.. and now we are regretting it..

i kinda wish we had a big ugly fight that would make it easier.. its such a WASTE of money though.. and also if these ppl got married we would NOT want to go to their wedding

Yankees2323 Posted: Dec 02, 2009 11:29 AM

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maybe put them on the b and c list ?

jcreilly Posted: Dec 02, 2009 11:32 AM

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I WOULD INVITE THEM,

Ncarlo Posted: Dec 02, 2009 11:35 AM

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Posted by Lsorrent

Well, normally I'd say yes. But I'm actually going to say no because I'm in the same boat.

We (well FH) had a friend....his so-called best friend. He has always in the past screwed FH over, but this time it was royal. Anyhow......FH was going to ask him to be a GM, and he was waiting until our e-party to ask his guys. So e-party comes. Sh!thead friend of course is invited. Party starts at 11. 11:30, still no friend.......12 still no friend....12:30 nope, not there yet.......he finally stumbles in looking like he rolled out of bed at 1:00!!!!!!!! The freaking party ended at 2!!!!!!!!

FH never asked him to be a GM, and no longer speaks to him. He has tried to call FH a few times, and stopped by our house once (when we weren't home) but FH is done with him. He was really upset when dumba$$ friend was so late......FH doesn't have any pics of him and his GM's from our e-party simply because of that guy.

So NO, he will not be invited to the wedding. He did not get an STD, and he will NOT get an invite.

oh my this is absolutely terrible.. seriously its a good thing you cut him bc clearly he is NOT a good friend/ friend by any means!

CappyGirl Posted: Dec 02, 2009 11:38 AM

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I guess you should invite them, since there was no official friendship-ending event, but maybe they feel the same way and will decline the invite?

Future Mrs P Posted: Dec 02, 2009 11:40 AM

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If youre close to your max def dont invite them. You don't want to use up a spot on someone you don't really care if they're there or not. I would def consider them for the b/c list if you have one.

christine2010 Posted: Dec 02, 2009 11:42 AM

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you & your FH should use your best judgment.

we are dealing with a similar situation. in we sent STDs to a couple of people who are no longer on our invite list. we asked our parents opinions & they basically told us, if you don't want to have anything to do with said people anymore, then don't invite them.

so we cut them from our list.

btw: both situations where falling outs.

jmgoncal Posted: Dec 02, 2009 11:47 AM

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Posted by LouieDianna2010

ugh.... im going to have to say yes...if you invite them to the engagement party they should be invited to the wedding UNLESS you guys had a fallling out.

I agree with this... and hope they don't come!

xela Posted: Dec 02, 2009 11:50 AM

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This happened to me...I attended an eparty for a friend like 2 yrs ago and then 1 yr ago I moved out of state so we werent as friendly. When she got married a few months back and I never recieved an invite to her wedding(not that I would have gone anyways) I did feel a little left out...but yet I totally understand why. With that being said I think you should consider inviting atleast some of them. I'm sure your gut will tell who should be there and who shouldnt. Good luck.