We're ordering the invites Thursday and we can't decide if we prefer 'request the honour of your presence at the marriage of their children' or 'cordially invite you to the marriage of their children.' Just for a little background, it's a formal Saturday night wedding with a 6:30 sunset ceremony at the reception hall.
MegLehner
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Ive read in etiquette books that your are not supposed to use 'honour' if you are not getting married at a church. We used request the pleasure of your company . . .
holly231
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My parents did not want anyting super formal on our invites....
OUrs say to this effect:
Ronnie and Patty (LAST NAME) Invite you to join them In celebrating the marriage of their daughter
Holly Lynn To Daniel Scott (LAST NAME)
becks23
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I've read that you should use 'honour' when it's a religious based ceremony, and pleasure of your company when it's not...
nferrandi
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Posted by becks23
I've read that you should use 'honour' when it's a religious based ceremony, and pleasure of your company when it's not...
I've heard that too, but does that mean that just because we're not having our ceremony in a church or temple that it's not religious? We're being married by a priest and a rabbi and will have religious elements to our ceremony.
Butterflybride
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I think you should just go with what you think sounds best. I personally like 'request the honour of your presence'
laudipop
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I like 'request the honor of your presence' too.
I'm getting married at the hall, and I was actually a little offended by the etiquette that it's not supposed to be an honor if it's not religious. I'd still like the honor of their presence, and my wedding means just as much to me!
Which do you like best? That's the one you should go with.
nov04LIbride
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Posted by MegLehner
Ive read in etiquette books that your are not supposed to use 'honour' if you are not getting married at a church. We used request the pleasure of your company . . .
I heard the same, so we also used request the pleasure of your company.
JimmysBride
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Posted by MegLehner
Ive read in etiquette books that your are not supposed to use 'honour' if you are not getting married at a church. We used request the pleasure of your company . . .
I've heard the same but I think they mean you should use 'honour' if you are getting married in a reglious establishment such as a church or temple. But that does not mean that your ceremony doesn't have religious elements if it's not in a house of worship.
That said, I really don't think it matters that your ceremony is not taking place in an actual house of worship since it is an interfaith marriage, it is definitely a religious ceremony and I think it's fine if you want to use 'honour'.
ETA: I just wanted to clarify - I think 'request the honour' is meant to indicate to your guests that they will be entering a house of worship of some kind.
