Invite wording

here is one way i just found on a website that they suggest you word it, if you dont like it let me know and ill see if another website has another option

Emma Margaret
daughter of Audrey Johnson and the late Kevin Johnson
and Jack Warren Smith
invite you to join them
in celebrating their marriage
on Saturday, the sixth of June
two thousand and nine
at five o'clock in the evening
St. Michael's Church
Orland Park, Illinois

here is more what i found.

DECEASED PARENT(S) It is not considered correct etiquette to include a deceased parent. However, many couples like to include a deceased parent in memory of their loved one(s). Wording for a deceased parent of the groom

Violet Blue Verde
and
Albe Gooden Tuxed
together with their parents
Mr. and Mrs. Carol Redd Verde
Mrs. Filomina Gretchen Tuxed
and the late Mr. Alvin Lester Tuxed
request the honour of your presence
at their marriage
&c.


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Wording for a deceased parent of the bride

Violet Blue Verde
and
Albe Gooden Tuxed
together with their parents
Mrs. Ruth Rosado Verde
the late Mr. Carl Redd Verde
and
Mr. and Mrs. Alvin Lester Tuxed
request the honour of your presence
at their marriage
&c.


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Wording for a deceased parents of the bride

Violet Blue Verde
and
Albe Gooden Tuxed
together with their parents
the late Mr. and Mrs. Carl Redd Verde
and
Mr. and Mrs. Alvin Lester Tuxed
request the honour of your presence
at their marriage
&c.

Thank you soooo much! I really appreciate you looking!!! The invitation people told me to put the 'late' MIL. I just wasn't sure if I should do that or just put her name.
Thanks!

It's up to you whether you want to put the deceased parents name on the invitaiton. My father passed away almost 2 years ago. At first I wanted to put his name on it like this:
Mrs. Roberta XXX
and the late Mr. Michael XXX
request the honour....

After thinking about it and discussing it with my mom and others, we decided against it. Instead I'm putting his name instead of my mom's name:
Mrs. Michael XXX
requests the honour...

I have seen several girls on here and on other invitations outside of here that have put their deceased parents name. It's really up to you and how comfortable you feel about it.

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Posted by Topher

Thank you soooo much! I really appreciate you looking!!! The invitation people told me to put the 'late' MIL. I just wasn't sure if I should do that or just put her name.
Thanks!

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yeah i would go with 'late' and no problem

I know it's hard when you have a death of a parent.... but IMO, it doesn't make sense to put them on there..... DH's mother is gone and we honored her in our wedding program, not the invitation. we wanted to keep the invite happy. when you have parents names on an invite, it insinuates that they are hosting and will be in attendance and that is clearly not possible.

i have seen the 'late mr. or mrs. smith', but again, due to the above reasoning, i don't like it.

if it a father that has passed and provided the mother was never remairred, a Mrs. (father's first name) Smith works, because it honors her and in a very subtle way, the father.

good luck to you... it's a tough situation... i did not put 'late' and the name on mine.... it didn't make sense to me as well as being sad. we honored her in our program and at our Mass instead.