Invite Wording Etiquette

I'm at a loss how to word our invites.

FH and I are paying for all of the vendors between the two of us. FH's parents are paying a good chunk of the RH. My parent's paid the deposit on the RH, plus paid for my dress, veil, and will be paying for my shower.

So, dilemma being, is it more appropriate to say FH and I, together with their parents, invite you to...

OR go the traditional route Mr. & Mrs. Coldasice217 request the honor of your presence to the marriage of their daughter....even though they are paying the LEAST amount total.

I feel that either way is going to offend someone. I don't want to slight FH's parent's by having my parents doing the invite, even though FH's parents are contributing, and I don't know if we word it with FH and I doing the inviting, if it seems like we are not acknowledging the help that we are getting.

Ahhh!!! What would you do in this situation?

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Posted by GT143EA

FH and I are paying for most of the wedding ourselves with a little help from our parents...our invites read Gail and Eric together with their families.......

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i agree to do it that way.

FH and I and MY parents are paying so ours say Mr. & Mrs. _________ request the honour of your presence at the marriage of their daughter blah blah blah

FH and i are paying for more of the wedding than either set of parents, but we preferred that our parents be listed as the hosts...we went with:

Mr and Mrs X
and
Mr. and Mrs Y
Request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their children

how about something like this.

together with their parents,
Mr and Mrs X
and
Mr. and Mrs Y,
Bride
and
Groom
Request the honor of your presence
at their marriage

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Posted by LeeAnne

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Posted by GT143EA

FH and I are paying for most of the wedding ourselves with a little help from our parents...our invites read Gail and Eric together with their families.......

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i agree to do it that way.

FH and I and MY parents are paying so ours say Mr. & Mrs. _________ request the honour of your presence at the marriage of their daughter blah blah blah

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FH and I are paying for all of the vendors and my parents are paying for the RH. FH's parents dont have alot of money so they are helping out where they can but we totally u/s the situation.....but the invitations are going to have MR & Mrs________ request the honor of your presence for the marriage of their daughter..........

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Posted by Kristina2009

how about something like this.

together with their parents,
Mr and Mrs X
and
Mr. and Mrs Y,
Bride
and
Groom
Request the honor of your presence
at their marriage

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Hmm...in a situation like this, would the order of the parents go by bride's then groom's, or alphabetical by last name? And then would it be understood that the order of the children would match to each set of parents?

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Posted by GT143EA

FH and I are paying for most of the wedding ourselves with a little help from our parents...our invites read Gail and Eric together with their families.......

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sorry..thats what im doing forgot to quote

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Posted by coldasice217

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Posted by Kristina2009

how about something like this.

together with their parents,
Mr and Mrs X
and
Mr. and Mrs Y,
Bride
and
Groom
Request the honor of your presence
at their marriage

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Hmm...in a situation like this, would the order of the parents go by bride's then groom's, or alphabetical by last name? And then would it be understood that the order of the children would match to each set of parents?

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It's always bride first - so the order is brides parents, grooms parents, bride, groom. HTH