Invite Wording Question

I'm kinda far off to be worrying about invites, but since FH runs a graphic design studio, he is going to be having his vendors supply the paper and having his designers make our invites lol. This means we have to make this sort of an early ongoing project for him at work.

Any whooooo...what is the wording I should use? FH's parents are paying for the ceremony (because I'm not Catholic and they want it in a Catholic Churh), the RD, and then giving us some money towards photog and band. My parents are giving around $40,000, which is paying for the entire hall, all the flowers, my dress, and a lot of the little things that go into the day. Then, FH and I are paying for our own limos, attendant gifts, favors, etc.

Who is 'requesting the honor' of people's presence in this situation? FH's parents are being generous, but I don't know if I'll be insulting my parents if I write something about both parents being the ones doing the inviting since my parents are really going above and beyond in paying for things. But then I don't know if FH's parents will be insulted!!! What do I do here???

TIA

Ok heres what we did....

We are paying for everything ourselves or so we thought...but then my father gave us 10k for the photographer, video, and DJ. The invitation people told us that we should not include him on the invitation since we are covering the bulk of the expenses.

We wound up just doing Melissa & Brandon along with their children, Madelyn & Mikayla, yada yada yada...

We plan on publicly thanking my father at the reception to let him know we appreciate his gift!

I would only include your parents names since they are handling the majority of the wedding...the FILs should understand this, I think!

Good luck!

Both our parents contributed to the wedding, mine a bit more than FH's. Still, we paid for over half of it.

We did the traditional wording of

Mr. and Mrs. BridesParents
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Kara Patrice
to
Todd Charles
son of
Mr. and Mrs. GroomsParents

Both sets were fine with this. The RD invite had the wording of his parents hosting.

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Posted by Kara and Todd

Both our parents contributed to the wedding, mine a bit more than FH's. Still, we paid for over half of it.

We did the traditional wording of

Mr. and Mrs. BridesParents
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Kara Patrice
to
Todd Charles
son of
Mr. and Mrs. GroomsParents

Both sets were fine with this. The RD invite had the wording of his parents hosting.

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I think thats perfect!

You have a few options. My parents really paid for the wedding, and we paid for our rings, favors and attendants gifts (after all, they were for us, or our gifts to our guests and bridal party). We wanted to honor his parents on the invite so our wording was like this:

Mr. and Mrs. Bride's Parents
request the honour of your presence
at the marrige of their daughter
Bride
to
Groom
son of Mr. and Mrs. Groom's Parents
Saturday, the date, etc.

This does not necessarily indicate that the groom's parents were hosting the wedding, but they certainly appreciated being included on the invite. I think it's a good diplomatic way to include both sets of parents without anyone being offended.

Another option is this:

Bride
and
Groom
together with their parents
Mr. and Mrs. Bride's Parents
and
Mr. and Mrs. Groom's Parents
request the honour of your presence
at their marriage

By the way, since you are getting married in a church, it should be 'request the honour of your presence'.

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Posted by mandc722

By the way, since you are getting married in a church, it should be 'request the honour of your presence'.

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Really? I planned on doing it that way anyway - but what is it about the church's that means you should do it this way?

my friend just went through this.....she wrote
'Melissa Beth & John Thomas along with their parents Mr.&Mrs._______ and Mr&Mrs_________ request the honour of your presense'......but i think 'etiquette wise' you put who's paying the most first and then so on - so you'd put

'Mr & Mrs (ur parents name) with Mr & Mrs (ur FIL's name) along with their children (your name & FH's) request the honour of your presence'....blah blah blah....


good luck!

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Posted by Jess125483

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Posted by mandc722

By the way, since you are getting married in a church, it should be 'request the honour of your presence'.

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Really? I planned on doing it that way anyway - but what is it about the church's that means you should do it this way?

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I have no idea, but according to all the etiquette guides I've checked out, that's what they say. If it is not in a house of worship then it should be 'request the pleasure of your company'

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Posted by mandc722

Bride
and
Groom
together with their parents
Mr. and Mrs. Bride's Parents
and
Mr. and Mrs. Groom's Parents
request the honour of your presence
at their marriage

By the way, since you are getting married in a church, it should be 'request the honour of your presence'.

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I am having the same problem and after much research we decided to word it as above.

Both of our parents contributed $$ and we also paid for quite a bit ourselves, so we did

Together with their parents

Bride
and
Groom
request the honor of your prescence

Hope it helps