I am getting married 10/28/06. My fincee thinks it would be a good idea to do away with STD's and send out our invites now since we are getting married three hours away. I think it is a good idea b/c it would give people enough time to reqest time off of work if needed... My mother said 'It just is not done'... I can't think of any reason not to send them out 7-8 months prior to wedding date... What do you think? Any thoughts?
If i do send out in March - when should the RSVP date be?
Thanks
ali120206
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My cousin in law to be is getting married there in May. She's planning on sending out the invites next month to give people enough time to plan accordingly (but, they also sent out save the dates).
ETA-If you send out in March and give a long time for a response date, people might forget to send them back in. I'd wait a couple of months before I sent out invites, maybe until June or July, it still gives them time to plan.
ChrissynRicky
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I honestly think it's entirely too soon to send out invitations. Had it been six months - I'd say 'maybe' - but October's 9 months away.
I would send out STD's (really cheap ones that'll get the message across) and then send out the invites 4 months before, w/an RSVP date 2 months before the date.
reenielady
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I think STD's are a good idea I am going to do that as well. We are getting married the same day. If you send out invites to early you risk that people will ignore them and lose them and you will end up calling to find out who is coming and who is not.
Mrs. dleeny
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I sent out my invites 2 ½ months before my wedding and I got the “you sent them out already?” comments
aliwnec10
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I would stick to sending out the STD's. I wouldn't recommend you send out the invites this far in advanced because #1-people won't be able to commit to your wedding so far in advance (especially those with kids). #2-if you send them this early and people are just holding on to them for months and months, they could lose them or totally forget about it. #3-people might say yes to begin with because they're hoping they might go, but end up not coming because 'something came up' so you're just going to need to do another head count anyway.
I would do the STD's (if you don't want to order them, many are done online these days). Wait on the invites for a while. JMO.
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TOO SOON!!!! Send out the STDs. We sent a basic newsletter with all the info, which cost $3.81 at Staples for all the copies.
People lose things that early. People's jobs change. Before my friends wedding I was layed-off twice in the 6 months prior. I ended up not being able to attend. People die. (Sorry, but its true) We just lost a family member.
Plus, we just had 3 members of our wedding party drop out in the last month for issues beyond their control. If people this close to us can change their mind with 3 months to go, imagine how many guests will. I could go on.
Also, getting married 3 hours away doesn't matter. All of our guests are from OOT.
SPITSBRIDE
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Wow, that is way too soon...you have plenty of time. People are going to forget about your invitation they may end up throwing it out or may get misplaced. The best time to mail them out is 2 months prior to your affair, there is no rush.
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Posted by SPITSBRIDE
Wow, that is way too soon...you have plenty of time. People are going to forget about your invitation they may end up throwing it out or may get misplaced. The best time to mail them out is 2 months prior to your affair, there is no rush.
I couldn't agree more! People will DEFINTELY forget and/or lose the invitation. There is NO WAY an invitation would last 9 months in my house. Send out STD's now, but I don't think you should send your invitations before the end of August.
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way too soon
kara10152006
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I also have a lot of out-of-towners and since I couldn't send the invitations too soon but still wanted to leave the guests plenty of preparation time I sent save-the-dates 11 months in advance.
Soon2BeMrsD
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i think your better off waiting, march is a bit too soon IMHO
werock0709
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I think it's way too soon. I'd say send out the invites maybe late July or mid August, and find some cheap STD's, so it's fresh in everybody's mind.
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Most people don't send invites out that far in advance because 1) It's just not the way most people do it. 2) People will likely forget about the wedding, or will forget to RSVP. 3) Your guest list can and will change in between now and your wedding.
I'd recommend sendng the STDs out to only the people that you are positive will be invited to your wedding. A lot can change in 7-8 months.
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I agree with everyone else, that is way too soon. We also have a lot of OOT guests (everyone from FHs side). We send STD about a year in advance, and are sending the invites 10 weeks before. You can send STDs really cheaply, and put any hotel info in there so people can make reservations now if they want.
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9mths is too long and you rin the risk of people losing the invites, forgetting to RSVP and you will have even more work following up with everyone. I would do the STD, they don't have to be magnets, they could be cards with the some info.
nygirl77
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Too soon! Send out Save the dates. I spent less then $15 on mine (plus postage).
Jacny23
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Ok - Thanks everyone for your advise. I think I will wait and send the STD's now.
