Inviting a Single Unattached Guest

Star625 Posted: Apr 10, 2014 04:18 AM

Inviting a Single Unattached Guest

How do you address an envelope for a single person with an unknown guest? I have a few single friends that aren’t seeing anyone specific. Do I address the envelope Ms. Jane Doe/Mr. Joe Doe and Guest or just address it to them alone and let them write in a guest on the RSVP card? I’ve read mixed beliefs on this. But I really don’t know (I don’t even think they know) who they are planning on bringing.

***I am not doing an inner envelope.

rcotter90 Posted: Apr 10, 2014 05:59 AM

Inviting a Single Unattached Guest

Definitely write 'and guest' so they know they have the option to invite a guest. We will only be inviting those in serious relationships or engaged with guests. FH has a lot of cousins who I know would bring some rando slore and we don't want that and can't afford it.

Star625 Posted: Apr 10, 2014 06:15 AM

Inviting a Single Unattached Guest

LOL - I hear you...but the single people we are allowing guests are random friends that don't necessarily know the rest of the party. So the guest can kind of be a buffer for them to feel comfortable. Anyone that knows a bunch of other guests and is single does not get a guest.

Soon2BeMrsMango Posted: Apr 10, 2014 07:35 AM

Inviting a Single Unattached Guest

We did Ms. Jane Doe and Guest. If I got an envelope addressed to just me I would not assume I was invited with a guest.

Beebs1616 Posted: Apr 10, 2014 07:40 AM

Inviting a Single Unattached Guest

We did Ms. Jane Doe & Guest. But for the most part, we only invited people in serious relationships. The only & guests were for our parents friends or co-workers that didn't know many people.

coffeeisgreen Posted: Apr 10, 2014 08:07 AM

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We put 'Mr. John Doe and Guest' exactly like that.

Vilardi82 Posted: Apr 10, 2014 08:20 AM

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Posted by Soon2BeMrsMango

We did Ms. Jane Doe and Guest. If I got an envelope addressed to just me I would not assume I was invited with a guest.

Agreed

Caruh Posted: Apr 10, 2014 08:25 AM

Inviting a Single Unattached Guest

Yeah, if I had people that I was giving a +1 but either they weren't in a current relationship or it was up in the air who they would bring (like elderly folk with multiple children) I put 'and guest.' If you have it just with their name (unless you tell them) then they will assume they don't get a plus one.

winnie52376 Posted: Apr 10, 2014 08:44 AM

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Posted by Soon2BeMrsMango

We did Ms. Jane Doe and Guest. If I got an envelope addressed to just me I would not assume I was invited with a guest.

This exactly.

Alimm729 Posted: Apr 10, 2014 09:29 AM

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Posted by Soon2BeMrsMango

We did Ms. Jane Doe and Guest. If I got an envelope addressed to just me I would not assume I was invited with a guest.

This!

Mrs Posted: Apr 10, 2014 09:38 AM

Inviting a Single Unattached Guest

Definitely put mrs. Soandso and guest lower case G because guest is not a proper noun.... If you don't put and guest then they will assume only they were invited...

KTF11 Posted: Apr 10, 2014 09:51 AM

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Posted by Beebs1616

We did Ms. Jane Doe & Guest. But for the most part, we only invited people in serious relationships. The only & guests were for our parents friends or co-workers that didn't know many people.

This is what we did too.

meejack1110 Posted: Apr 10, 2014 09:54 AM

Inviting a Single Unattached Guest

We only have two friends that are Single/not attached. We put Ms. Jane Doe and Guest on the outside because we are also not having an inner envelope, and this way its clear to them they are a plus 1

haw4 Posted: Apr 10, 2014 10:05 AM

Inviting a Single Unattached Guest

I would say 'and Guest' on the envelope. I got nervous because FH got a wedding invitation with only his name on it, and no inner envelope. They wrote my name on the rsvp card. Was not a fan of that because for awhile we weren't sure if I was invited!

KimnAndy Posted: Apr 10, 2014 10:29 AM

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Posted by Soon2BeMrsMango

We did Ms. Jane Doe and Guest. If I got an envelope addressed to just me I would not assume I was invited with a guest.

This!
We invited and guest if we knew they were in a long relationship. Our guest count it tight, but I like your idea about having someone they know there too. If you have the space, go for it. Good Luck.

Star625 Posted: Apr 10, 2014 11:20 PM

Inviting a Single Unattached Guest

Yea we'll address the envelopes if we know their name - for the unknowns we'll use 'guest'. It makes sense...just most of the etiquette sites said not to - but I think it's outdated, especially since we're not doing the outer/inner envelopes. Thanks everyone!!

lizzyro Posted: Apr 11, 2014 10:09 PM

Re: Inviting a Single Unattached Guest

Posted by Star625

Yea we'll address the envelopes if we know their name - for the unknowns we'll use 'guest'. It makes sense...just most of the etiquette sites said not to - but I think it's outdated, especially since we're not doing the outer/inner envelopes. Thanks everyone!!

I think the problem is the etiquette is geared towards having inner and outer envelopes like you said. I put Ms. Jane Doe and guest' I can't see anyway around it if it's a single friend