Inviting people from work

JBKempf Posted: Sep 24, 2005 12:09 PM

Inviting people from work

I moved to Florida in July for a job in August. Now, I am wondering do I invite these people to a wedding in NY?

I am pretty friendly with a bunch of people. What do I do?

csorisi Posted: Sep 24, 2005 12:12 PM

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I think they would understand that you didn't invite them since you are having the wedding in NY & they live in FL. I don't think you have to invite them.

JBKempf Posted: Sep 24, 2005 12:15 PM

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I don't want them to think I was being rude, but I think it would be too much to fly to NY during the holidays for a wedding.

babybug631 Posted: Sep 24, 2005 12:57 PM

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I wouldn't invite them. I wouldn't expect my co-workers to travel that far for my wedding. You have to look at co-workers for what they are. Yes, a few you will become friends with. Do you see these people outside of work? Do you call them on the weekends just to talk? Chances are probably not. I'm more than sure they will understand.

candb Posted: Sep 24, 2005 01:13 PM

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I wouldn't invite them either. It's one thing for relatives or close friends to travel for a wedding, but for coworkers it's too much.

jportjeff Posted: Sep 24, 2005 10:56 PM

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no! dON't bother.

I'm up in mass. and I'm glad. They liked it because they didn't feel obligated to give a gift.

October Bliss Posted: Sep 25, 2005 01:38 AM

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Posted by JBKempf

I moved to Florida in July for a job in August. Now, I am wondering do I invite these people to a wedding in NY?

I am pretty friendly with a bunch of people. What do I do?

I'm considering not inviting people I've worked with for 6 years. I don't think I could invite people I've worked with for two months, especially one that required that much travel.

juju Posted: Sep 25, 2005 09:34 AM

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Do you still work for them?

If you do, I would send an invite. I wouldn't think they will feel obligated to go to the wedding. They would most likely kindly decline.

If you no longer work with them, I would say don't invite them. They wouldn't get offended.

nferrandi Posted: Sep 25, 2005 12:56 PM

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I was at my job for 4 years when I got married and I didn't invite anyone. The fact of the matter was I couldn't pick and choose and I wasn't willing to pay for everyone when we had to cut some of our friends. I did bring them all favors from my wedding though.

JBKempf Posted: Sep 25, 2005 01:12 PM

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Yea I guess it makes sense. I just didn't want to offend anyone.

OctoberBride05 Posted: Sep 27, 2005 10:51 AM

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I wouldnt invite them. I am getting married in NY and I work here as well. I only invited my boss to my wedding. It would have been too many people and too much money.

susan624 Posted: Sep 27, 2005 11:13 AM

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I wouldn't invite them.

stephanief Posted: Sep 27, 2005 11:16 AM

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I am in the same situation. I live in NC but am having my wedding in NY. I am not inviting anyone from my job, all my friends understand

roxyspark Posted: Sep 27, 2005 06:54 PM

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Posted by nferrandi

I was at my job for 4 years when I got married and I didn't invite anyone. The fact of the matter was I couldn't pick and choose and I wasn't willing to pay for everyone when we had to cut some of our friends. I did bring them all favors from my wedding though.

I wouldn't invite them, but I think bringing them a favor is a nice idea, espcially if they throw you a work wedding shower.

i102bcute Posted: Sep 28, 2005 09:46 AM

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I know I am going to invite some people I work with.

ktkitten Posted: Sep 29, 2005 08:41 AM

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I work in a small company (20-30 people), but I couldn't by any means invite everyone, even considering I've been working there 6 years.

I invited the people in my department (4 people), the owner/my boss, and a couple people in my building I'm close with. in all, about 8 invitations. Half declined, the other half are happy to be invited.

As for the rest of the company, while we are friendly, they didn't say a peep about the lack of invitation. They understood. Heck, the billing department chipped in and got me a bottle of champagne as a gift! *L*
I also extended a verbal 'feel free to stop by' invitation to the ceremony since we will have a bit of extra room in the back, and I don't have to pay PP for that!

Laura&Phil Posted: Sep 29, 2005 12:51 PM

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I don't think you should invite them, esp if they may feel obligated to buy you a gift. Anyone in my office who got married outside of the NY area didn't invite anyone from the office. If it comes up you can just explain it-they should understand.

Soon2BeMrsS Posted: Sep 29, 2005 02:49 PM

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Posted by candb

I wouldn't invite them either. It's one thing for relatives or close friends to travel for a wedding, but for coworkers it's too much.

I agree!

12-3Princess Posted: Sep 29, 2005 06:13 PM

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Posted by JBKempf

I moved to Florida in July for a job in August. Now, I am wondering do I invite these people to a wedding in NY?

I am pretty friendly with a bunch of people. What do I do?

I did the same thing. I'm in Florida now. I invited my office out of courtesy, knowing they probably wouldn't go and just wanting to do the right thing (I'm an attorney and it's common practice to invite the other attorneysi to the wedding in my office)... anyway, as it turns out, two coworkers are actually flying to NY for my wedding!!!!