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inviting people- where does it stop!!! kinda long

edsprincess Posted:

inviting people- where does it stop!!! kinda long

PLEASE help!!! Here's the story in short:
I chose not to invite co-workers because when does it stop. My parents aren't made out of money. This is still a big fight between me and Fh because my mom who is paying wanted to invite 2 sets of neighbors who I've known forever. FH doesn't want them there so he wants to invite co-workers. But they are immature joksters. He's known them since he's worked there. 9 yrs. I want him to but we are just about at that limit. And we can't afford to add them.
About a month ago my dad told me they can't afford more than $5,000. That pissed of FH more because his parents offered at the beginning to pay for their half. My parents said no that they will pay.
So I'm stuck because I don't know what to do. Should he invite a handful of people? But does that include their wifes or girlfriend that we don't know?
hocus Posted:

Re: inviting people- where does it stop!!! kinda long

First off I don't see any reason why you FI's family shouldn't pay, since it would obviously make this much easier for everyone.

Second: But your co-workers on a B list, invite them as you get 'regrets' from other people. Just because you invite you neighbors doesn't mean they will come.
PeterNChris Posted:

Re: inviting people- where does it stop!!! kinda long

Kindly tell FH to tell parents that you will be needing their help afterall. And then FH can invite whoever he wants.

edsprincess Posted:

Re: inviting people- where does it stop!!! kinda long

I would ask them but they gave us $2000 for photography. His father said they gave his daughter $1500 when they got married 8 yrs ago, so it wouldn't be fair giving us more.
Fh feels weird asking them more money.

I was hoping for more 'no' responses than we got. but we only got 4. And tomarrow is our RSVP date.
DAVALJO2 Posted:

Re: inviting people- where does it stop!!! kinda long

I a dealt with the same issue. FI and i just decided to cut some people out. We only invited those who we are close with . We gave my parents 5 invites each so they could invite whoever they want.

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