Ok I work in a hospital, i've been there for over 5 years now. I've bounced around to a few departments so there are people i know all over the place....I'm freaking out because they ALL know i'm getting married....and now i don't know who to invite. I was thinking of just inviting the people that work on my weekend (i work every other weekend) to narrow down the list a little. I'm also a little nervous because my RH only holds 240 people and DF and I already have 250+ on the invite list lol....what to do...what to do.... any suggestions will as always, be greatly appreciated.
davenjess
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While I don't have the numbers problem you do (our wedding will be kinda smallish)...but the work invites...whoofty.
I have finally decided to only invite those that I am close to. The people who if they hear i'm sick, come see if i'm okay. The people who when it's my birthday - want to take me to lunch. The people who have asked/cared the most about the whole wedding thing...
I'm only inviting one person that I feel i have to and that's my manager...not his biggest fan - but he's my manager - so I think it would be rude not to...
HTH in some way!
Mici n KC
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I don't think you have to invite anyone from work but that's JMO. If you truly feel close to some of your colleagues, then by all means do it. I've only been at my current job for 11 months and don't feel particularly close to anyone (but that could change in a year) so do what you feel is right.
MalteseMommy
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I invited about 10 people from work but they are all people I am close friends with outside of work.
jeanmarie
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I TOO WORKED IN A HOSPITAL FOR 15 YEARS SO I UNDERSTAND HOW YOU FEEL. I ENDED UP INVITING 15 PEOPLE FROM MY JOB ALL OF WHOM I WORKED WITH THE LONGEST. PEOPLE WILL TRULY UNDERSTAND IF THEY DON'T WELL I FEEL THAT THEY ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS ANYWAY. GOOD LUCK
LitBallerinaGirl
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That's really hard. I only have 10 people in my office so I invited all of them. If you can draw the line somewhere without offending the ones that you didn't invite, I say invite those people. If not you may not want to invite any of them unless you hang out with some of them out of work. Sounds like you don't have all tht much room, and you can't go wrong if you don't invite any of them. Good Luck!
kellybean
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It depends on if you feel it will cause problems at work....I thankfully work with people who would be honored to be invited and totally understand if they werent ......But I know some people have felt like they had cold shoulder type reprocussions for not inviting certain people.
Mich0621
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I work with a whole bureau, and two other bureaus are in my office (Legal Aid)...I cannot possibly afford to invite everyone in my bureau and the few people I spend time with in others. What I am doing is inviting those who I am close with (my lunch crew)...also, everyone invited is under STRICT instruction not to blab it (everyone agreed).
Bottom line: I was told this by some co-workers who married while employed here-it is your wedding, and you invite who you want! People generally understand that weddings are expensive and you can't invite everyone, but there might be people at work who you can't picture celebrating you day without!
040508Bride
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I have a feeling i might be safer by just not inviting any of them. There are a few who have helped me a lot and are great people, but at the end of the day, i do not hang out with any of them outside of work. Not only that, but, it's a hospital, and people talk, and i know if i do the whole (you're invited but don't tell anyone) it will NEVER fly. Between scheduling and coverage, people will figure it out and i think i'm safer doing the all or none deal. I might just invite the 2 people i really see outside of work and thats it. If not, i have to invite the people from work plus their guest and i really can't.
catsgirl
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OMG, I'M GOING THROUGH THIS PEOPLE AT WORK HANDING ME THERE ADDRESS OR SAYING I CANT WAIT FOR YOUR WEDDING WELL SO MANY WILL BE DISAPPOINTED, I'M INVITING MY CLOSE FRIENDS THE ONES I AM FRIENDS W/ OUTSIDE OF WORK AS WELL . I CANT INVITE THE WHOLE WORK PLACE. AND I'M SURE THEY SHOULD UNDERSTAND THIS.
June12007bride
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I did the all or none thing and decided none was the best way to go. I just explained to a few people that we had a lot of family and not enough room. I think that worked best.
tricia3381
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i would only invite the people u go to happy hour's, lunches, or other non work related activites. thats what i did. i was going to invite my whole dept than i realized i would just be inviting them to invite them. then i looked it over and crossed off the people i don't see outside of work.
