I'm really getting depressed because I feel like I won;t be able to afford what I want and I'm going to settle for something less and STILL spend a completel fortune. For example, I love the mansions, I just can't afford them at all! I want to have a really great photo package, but where am I gonna get the money? etc etc...I'm just gettign upset and I feel like this whole process is going to be a bunch of disappointments and compromises!
Lorena
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I can understand the feeling. I think I realized something that has helped. I won't look at vendors that I can't afford!!! I realized this when looking at bands. Not that the one we chose was inexpensive, but we unknowingly went to showcases for bands that were waaaaaay out of our price range. In retrospect we should have realized this but when you are inexperienced at these things you don't realize it. Anyway, after awhile we started calling ahead and getting the bands price range. That way we saved ourselves the dissapointment of falling in love with the band just to find out we couldn't afford them. So going forward I'm doing my homework first. hope that helps. Don't get discouraged. You will have a beautiful wedding.
september2004
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this process, marriage, LIFE is a series of compromises...
it's all very overwhelming, and the sticker shock STILL kills me. but after a while you figure out what your priorities are and as long as you make informed decisions your anxiety level will go down. don't 'buy into' what everyone else is doing, do what you want, can afford, and WANT to afford (just because i can spend 6K on a photographer doesn't mean i will do it).
you have PLENTY of time to get creative and crafty. invest in 1 or 2 things and make up the difference with a personal touch. in the end my top priorities were: ceremony, food, and music. all else will be great, but with the help of my mother a lot of items we will create ourselves. if i didn't have this option, i would have had to rethink the percentage allocations for each component.
Ladybug63
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I also love the Mansions but could not afford them until I found out about Timber Point CC. It is a mansion on a golf course overlooking the Great South Bay. It doesn’t give you the total mansion feeling in the ballroom but the foyer and patio do. The are also very reasonable! I get freaked out all the time about $. I know when it comes down to it I probably wont have enough money but I know some how we will make it work and so will you.
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I am feeling this way too, our reception is much more then we had planned and some days Im not sure we can do it, even considered postponing it, but we decided to make it work...you can too, you will be so happy no matter what you pick..keeping thinking that, its true!
The Original 2nd-time-around
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Also remember, there are PLENTY of beautiful, classy places that are not mansions. You will have a wonderful wedding day, now matter where it is.
LadyPrincess
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there are some days i feel the budget is under control & some days i say ........
lianemarie
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I think about the $$ every night. I hope this calms down, otherwise I will get no sleep until after the wedding is over.
drewsgirl
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Actually I had a mini break down the other night about this! so i know how you feel! I thought we were doing really good with money, and we saved a lot! but still short. Just so disappointed more then anything bc I wanted to have it all paid in advance without dipping into wedding money..oh well you only get to do this once!
nan&dave
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Compromises, that's what life is all about. For example, I wanted to go to DR (Dominican Rep.) and surprise my dad before he comes back, but I can't because with that $$ we can book the photographer. Ugghhh. But like many have told me, and I say to you, where there's a will, there's a way. Good luck.
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I hope you're right. I mean, it'll just take a lot of creativity and careful planning. I'm going to try to make as much as I can. I have a lot of time until the big day and I have you ladies for support! That way I cna add a personal touch and save $$ at the same time. I mean, who cares if my invites are computer printed instead of engraved or thermographed? No one else will have the exact same ones, that's for sure!
